Only time they call is when they need money! (sister)
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I got a heartfelt letter from the sister who is demanding the money on Saturday.
She said that life was not fair that I had an easy life and was able to make so much money and live a comfortable retirement when the rest of the family had to struggle in low wage jobs and as a member of the family I owed it to her and the rest of the money to share the wealth.
I got a heartfelt letter from the sister who is demanding the money on Saturday.
She said that life was not fair that I had an easy life and was able to make so much money and live a comfortable retirement when the rest of the family had to struggle in low wage jobs and as a member of the family I owed it to her and the rest of the money to share the wealth.
yeah but if it is true, the nerve of someone else dictating to another person that they "owe" them money and how another person should spend their money - notice how the sister didn't say how the OP should spend money on himself, but on the other members of the family.
Call the sister that owes you the first $5,000, catch up on old times then tell her to give $2,000 to the younger sister and you will forgive that part of her loan.
yeah but if it is true, the nerve of someone else dictating to another person that they "owe" them money and how another person should spend their money - notice how the sister didn't say how the OP should spend money on himself, but on the other members of the family.
If a member of your family won the lottery and got millions would you expect them to share the wealth?
I used to make really good money and my income was five times anyone else in the family at one time, so they see me as rich.
What they don't know is my situation is only comfortable now that I lost my last full time job after being fired.
Last edited by I'm Retired Now; 06-16-2014 at 08:50 AM..
1. If a member of your family wont the lottery and got millions would you expect them to share the wealth?
2. What they don't know is my situation is only comfortable now that I lost my last full time job after being fired.
1. The little family I have left absolutely would and I would do the same for them - and that's got nothing to do with any expectation in the sense you're using the word.
2. Instead of beating around the bush playing the power role and enjoying the begging routine (which I very much fear you do) why don't you simply tell them that? I imagine that for you that would be worse than having your teeth drilled "Marathon Man" style as you so obviously (based on this and numerous other threads) totally despise and look down upon your family members for having languished in what you perceive as low-paying dead-end jobs most of their lives. I wonder how many of them have been fired "many many times".
If a member of your family won the lottery and got millions would you expect them to share the wealth?
I used to make really good money and my income was five times anyone else in the family at one time, so they see me as rich.
What they don't know is my situation is only comfortable now that I lost my last full time job after being fired.
it would be NICE if they did, and I'd probably feel bad if they didn't share with me, however, in the real world, they are entitled to it.. but I would HOPE they would share, but I dont think i can demand it.
I was lucky in that my brother handled all my mother's business and when she died, he was honest and shared what was left in her account. He didn't have to do that, but he was honest, so i was lucky. or blessed, really.
I might ask but if they said no, i'd have to respect that, hard as it may be. Though if i were desperate and on the streeet and very poor, maybe i'd beg a little or try to get them to see if they could give me a small handout, but im not there, so i really dont know what i'd do in that situation. I hope i'd do the right thing and not be selfish or demanding.
when people put guilt into the mix, then it is not right. for all they know you have lived responsibly and saved enough, maybe you even sacrificed to have what you have, or whatever, you earned it. You are entitlted to keep it. maybe your family was irresponsible and thats why they are broke. but you have to use judgment to know which is the case - are they guilting you into giving it, or is there a real crisis. Its up to you to keep your money, and not be used as a bank. they do have banks for people wanting to borrow money... your family will have to go there.
Hey, lets say you are in a crisis, will they be there to help you? what if they said no? so now you are stuck with no help. what if you had saved the money you gave them and now you dont need to depend on anyone. so thats a good comfort. your not being stingy either not sharing.
if you wanted to test and see what they would do about repaying - you MIGHT wish to give them a tiny loan - like $100 or so, then see how they do with repaying you. make them sign a promisory note. thats if you want to do this and if you can spare it, but know in your mind that you probably wont see it back. dont tell them its a test. then see how they act. there you will have proof. or maybe dont even bother.. its up to you really. but dont do it on a guilt trip. save your money! i dont believe in this sham obama-spread-the-wealth type b.s. it just creates leeches who dont know how to get for themselves.
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