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Do you ever feel like the out of town family just comes when they want with little regard for your input?
Nope.
Is this a recurring thing for you, or a first-time problem? If it's first-time, I agree with the above poster: suck it up. If it's recurring, you need to learn to use your words: "I'm sorry, this week-end doesn't work at all for me. Do you want me to help you find a place to stay or do you want to take a rain check?"
Emigrations, you're always trying to get your Tennessee family members to MOVE to Indiana, so I guess they've taken it upon themselves to assume you miss them a lot and don't mind them barging in any time. If now you want to establish visiting parameters, I suspect you're going to have to be firm.
My mother, grandmother, and aunt are coming from TN to IN to visit me this weekend. I was in TN two weeks ago, had to work last weekend, and am now having to entertain them.
I really didn't want them to come this weekend as this is the first weekend I've had in a long time where I'm not either traveling, working, or doing something with my girlfriend, but they pretty much decided at the first of the week that they were coming up, and that was that. My input wasn't even asked for.
Do you ever feel like the out of town family just comes when they want with little regard for your input?
Grow a pair and say, "It's not a good weekend for me, Mom." Change the locks and don't be there when they arrive.
It would be rude of you to cancel at the last minute, but please speak up so it won't happen again. Tell them something like, "Thanks for coming, I'll let you know when's a good time to visit if you want to come again."
You have a mother AND grandmother AND aunt. That are still alive. That care about you. That want to visit only for a weekend. That get along with each other.
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Originally Posted by sfcambridge
poor baby....
You have a mother AND grandmother AND aunt. That are still alive. That care about you. That want to visit only for a weekend. That get along with each other.
You are so so lucky.
And spoiled.
And here it is. Someone trying to guilt trip the OP to prevent him from setting fair boundaries and excusing bad behavior from parents just because they birthed him. Happens every thread like this. Only a matter of time.
And here it is. Someone trying to guilt trip the OP to prevent him from setting fair boundaries and excusing bad behavior from parents just because they birthed him. Happens every thread like this. Only a matter of time.
I agree.
To the OP, tell your relatives it is a bad weekend.
Did you not see them 2 weeks ago when you were in TN??? If so then they can go somewhere else...
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