Saw a friend's wife out with another man, should I tell? (spouse, husband)
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I was at lunch and saw a friend's wife at lunch with a man who was not her husband. They seemed rather intimate. Snuggly & kissing, having some drinks with their food. They didn't see me. Should I tell him?
YES. If you care about your friend (both his future mental health and sexual health . . . after all, who knows what his cheating wife is bringing back into the bedroom with her), then let him know, even if its anonymously! Enough of this "it's not my business crap!" What ever happened to "I am my brother's keeper?"
Too bad you didn't surreptitiously snap their picture. This would have raised it from the realm of gossip to actual proof of what you saw.
If you are good friends with the man whose wife you saw, I think you should tell him. Furthermore, I would suggest not doing it anonymously, but face to face. (Your report will be far more believable if it comes from someone he personally knows than if it comes from some unknown e-mailer who, for all he knows, could be a prankster or a troll.) Tell him exactly when and where this took place, and exactly what you saw -- not your opinions, or speculation, but only what you saw with your own eyes. Also, convey a sense of concern. Say something like "I'm not trying to stir up trouble, but I just thought you should know." And then back off and let him deal with it from there.
I would hope my friends tell me if my man is cheating on me.
I would agree. It's not fun to hear, it's heartbreaking I am sure. But least the one being cheated on knows where they stand and can decide if it's worth working through, or if they want to cut out because their partner isn't who they thought they were. Because if it comes out later, then it can be worse when they have been playing you for a fool a good while, and friends or family know and you're the last one to hear,
But you can't bring just words. You have to give some proof. Too bad you didn't get a picture. True one should live and let live. But I can understand if someone is your friend or a loved one why you would want to let them know they're being played and betrayed by someone they care for Meanwhile the cheater is having their cake and eating it to while living happily to be running around on their partner and making a fool of them, then possibly springing it on them later they're leaving and already had their backup and plans made.
Like how old is your friend? How long have they been married? Any kids, and if so, what are their ages?
If I was under 45 without any kids under age 15 or so, I would DEFINITELY want to know so that I could work on finding another person to be my mate who was worthy of my trust before I was any older. If that was not the case, though, I would not want to know, but would just hope that my spouse's "affair" would blow over.
However, in today's world, because of AIDS and the STD "epidemic", I think anyone who would have a casual affair is a certifiable idiot!
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