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So, I have a block of 10 days off this christmas and my original plans were to go somewhere like Cuba or the Big Island etc. However, my GF wants to visit her parents close by (8 hour drive from here) and would like me to come with her...will probably rent a car, stay at her parents for a couple days then rent a hotel etc. and do some hiking/camping etc. the following days.
I think that she should cover 100% of this trip as it's not my idea...I would rather not go to her parents place as that is not my idea of a vacation, I am compromising here because I want to be with her and meet her siblings who are also going to be there.
Who do you think should cover the bulk of this trip - hotel, fuel, rental car etc. I don't think I should as it's not my idea. Both of us make pretty good money but she makes a lot more than me.
If you went to Cuba or the Big Island, and talked your girlfriend into coming along, how would you split the costs? However you would do it, that's how you should do it on this trip to see her parents.
Have you met her parents before? Or does she want to take you so that she can introduce you to them? If she feels that you are important enough to want to introduce to the parents, that's a sign that you should go.
You don't say how long you've been with this girl. But if this is (or is destined to be) a long-term thing, compromising on vacation destinations comes with the territory.
I don't look for this relationship to last very long if you are already keeping score. Normally people compromise and split costs in some manner. If you don't want to go, then don't go. Take your holiday vacation apart.
Any way you could talk her into one week and take the next week to go to Vegas and then make it a point that next vacation would be the big island. If your planning on long term with her your showing a very selfish side.
I don't look for this relationship to last very long if you are already keeping score. Normally people compromise and split costs in some manner. If you don't want to go, then don't go. Take your holiday vacation apart.
You're thinking of traveling to either Cuba or Hawaii within 3 weeks and you haven't made your travel arrangements yet? If it's about money then I imagine you would be the one paying more.
Otherwise, if you really want to be in a relationship, then you have to make concessions. Don't be all pouty face about it.
So, if you were going to Cuba or Hawaii, you would cover the costs 100%, since those are YOUR idea?
No... it would be a joint idea, I would not go to Cuba or Hawaii if she said she does not want to. And I said I don't want to go to Tahoe, she wants me to come with her. And in essence there are no extra expenses if I tag along since she still has to pay for gas, rental car etc.
I don't look for this relationship to last very long if you are already keeping score.
She keeps score like crazy and I usually don't. For example: she invited me to this event which costs $30 to see her play but she wants me to buy my own tickets. Yet I bought her $200 worth of christmas gifts, I am taking her out to a restaurant today that is going to cost me in excess of $150, I always drive around locally and pay for gas - that amounts to hundreds of $$$ that she never pays as we go hiking and stuff to substantially far off places. I have never even asked to split gas money even once.
Just the other day I bought her a few beers without even thinking all on my tab, yet she will crib to buy me even one $6 beer!!! WTF? And she makes one and a half times my income! Now you tell me who is the one being cheap?
You guys on here assume a lot, geez!
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