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My best friend of over 20 years went to prison in 2008..we were hang out buddies as we grew up together and were like crossed fingers..hung out day and night..we were both so much alike as we were both diagnosed as being slightly bipolar and with sleep disorders and totally unemployable...so we were both like 2 peas in a pod so to speak..joined at the hip..we knew so much about each other (little secrets over time)that we could've easily blackmailed one another if we had that kind of mentality..we were so close and spent so much time together daily ,some thought we were gay(even though we're not and in fact were double dating a lot and had near the exact same taste in women) ..he went to prison in 2008 and has written me exactly once..he sends a christmas card each month..that's it..i've sent tons of letters in the past 8 years via the postal system,as well as writing online ,via jpay sending as many as 10 to 15 letters per month..his mom says he's getting my letters and reading them..she says he's not writing to me because he feels self conscious about his writing skills..that's absurd..while he's never been expertise in his reading or writing skills he knows very well i easily can read and digest what he writes..i know in my gut there's another reason but i don't understand what it would be..i started in 2008, writing letters that didn't have much content of our hanging out in the past..but in the past couple years i began incorporating past events and stuff we did together on a daily basis.. his mom says he's depressed nearly 100% of the time and of course i do understand this!! but why won't he write to me?? has anyone else experienced this type of behavior from a best friend that's in prison..and what was the cause and how did you deal with it??any answers and advice will help..thanx!!!
I have the very same problem with all of my good friends in prison. Well, I would have, if I had friends in prison. At least he sends you a Christmas card every month, which is odd itself. Maybe there is a better use of your time than writing a letter every other day (15 a month) for 8 years. That's over 1400 letters.
Last edited by cheryjohns; 04-06-2016 at 09:19 AM..
I have the very same problem with all of my good friends in prison. Well, I would have, if I had friends in prison. At least he sends you a Christmas card every month, which is odd itself. Maybe there is a better use of your time than writing a letter every other day (15 a month) for 8 years. That's over 1400 letters.
I'm trying to think if I knew anyone, even an acquaintance, in my entire life who was in prison. I just turned 64 and the answer is "No, not even one".
You might find that making new friends (among people who are not inclined to behave in ways that result in prison sentences) will provide some perspective and make it easier to let this friendship go. Also, seeking counseling or training or something that would change your view of yourself as "totally unemployable" might help as well.
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