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Old 10-14-2016, 09:29 AM
 
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Hello,

I have issues with my dad since graduating High School. Now he doesn't let me go hungry, have stay outside at night, still has been letting me drive the pickup so can get driving practice towards my full license still takes me out to town activities, and still comes talk and hugs me before he leaves. But we get into many discussions and once and awhile fights. But he tells me that only reason why acts like that is because I'm not doing anything with my life, Also he says that if want help to get something, that means i really don't want it.

Also, my mother divorced 4 years ago, and my surviving grandparents don't really help me, but they think my dad is so nasty but, they always say "well your dad can take care of you"

Now i have read these stories about " I hate my dad because he yells and calls me names". But what makes me wonder is why is there fighting, is it because of the parent or child or little of both.
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Old 10-14-2016, 09:37 AM
 
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Wait are your surviving grandparents HIS parents or your mother's? Also why don't you have a job? Are you trying to get one? You're graduated from high school, but you're not doing anything it sounds like. What do you do to maintain the household if you're not working? What do you contribute?
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Old 10-14-2016, 09:39 AM
 
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No school, no job? What ARE you doing?
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Old 10-14-2016, 10:09 AM
 
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No school, no job? What ARE you doing?
Exactly. Reserving advice until this question is answered.
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Old 10-14-2016, 10:15 AM
 
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My grandparents are My Mom's Mother 91 and My Dad's Father 82. The reason that don't have a job is because i'm limited by locations, because i don't live in a city, Just near a shopping center and where i've they've gave excuses why they can't hire me. I planning on taking a CAD course thru Penn foster, but the money that was set aside for me, my mother controls and my parents don't talk to each other because she left dad for a friend of 30 years . I still talk w/ her but its distant.
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Old 10-14-2016, 10:27 AM
 
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I don't live in the city just near a shopping center where they don't want me. I planning to take a CAD course on Penn Foster. But since my mom left she isn't very helpful. She has control of a school fund account. She left my dad for a friend his, so parents don't talk. My grandparents are mom's mother 91 (she doesn't let me drive her to town or the dr. but she wants me to ride with her) and dad's father 82.
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Old 10-14-2016, 10:45 AM
 
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Are there no community colleges/colleges near you? Can you widen your job search to include other nearby towns? Is there a bus/train.any other transportation system in your town that you can use?
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Old 10-14-2016, 12:23 PM
 
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What does the fact that your mom and dad don't communicate have to do with your college fund? YOU communicate with your mom, don't you? If not, why not?

Why are your sentences poorly written and ungrammatical? Your written communication isn't at college level. There seems to be more to the story, here.
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Old 10-14-2016, 01:25 PM
 
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Straight talk ahead. You don't sound like a good candidate for an online (for-profit!) school like Penn Foster. To make the most of an online program, you have to have a lot of self-motivation. You must be willing to stay in at night to get the work done, find your own internships, and keep on top of the courses you sign up for to make certain they will transfer to a 4 yr college. Yes, the tuition is cheap, but there's a reason the graduation rate is so low for their programs.

When did you graduated high school? How long have you been sitting at home waiting for somebody to hand you the money to go to school? Your father is right, you are wasting your future. He has a job, right? You know other people who do? Why are you unemployable?

Get off your butt and make an effort.
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Old 10-14-2016, 05:41 PM
 
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What suggestions have your mom and dad given you about finding work or about your future?
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