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We have a family member and she's older and she's just a complete hothead. I mean she just let's her emotions completely run her and how she operates, to a point of fault in my opinion. Whenever her and her husband visit the rest of the family we're all sorta sitting on a power keg wondering when she'll go off. She has a couple of drinks in her and she can be fun and all can be fun all night long but some controversial subject might come up and she'll get her back up against the wall and just be a complete B and go off on people. I mean polite discourse goes out the window with this woman. It's gotten to the point that I told mrs. Chow that when her and her husband come into town that I'll be busy and can't make it over there to visit with them. I just resent the hell out of being what I feel like is being hostage to her emotions. I can see this if you're 22 yrs old, not when you're 70 or so yrs old.
Supposedly she really feels bad about it afterwards, but I'm just too old to worry about whether or not my opinions will upset her and I just don't give a rip about walking on egg shells around her.
I view this as being something that she can control and to me it's a form of manipulation and control.... other people in the family make excuses for her and whatnot. IDK... I find it rude and tiring......and I ain't going to deal with it anymore. So like I said, they come to town... Chow is busy with work or whatever excuse I need to make up for her.
I've never done anything like that before and I'm a reasonable enough guy in general so I don't think it's me being stubborn or hard to deal with.
Is this a new (or greatly exacerbated) behavior or has she always been like this. Reason I'm asking is that if this is something new, then it could be a sign of something else (altzheimers, etc). If she's always been this way, then I don't blame you. I distance myself from the family members who are too controlling and manipulative
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Has anyone ever put her back in her place or do they all just get silent as she rampages?
I'm picturing in my mind a scenario where she starts going off and everyone just turns and walks out the door, to meet up at another relatives place nearby.
You can't fix whatever ails this woman, so making yourself scarce when she is around seems like your best option. I'm sure you're not the first person to do this.
I actually don't mind people like that, though I understand why you do.
Older people tend to lose whatever filter previously existed between their brain and their mouth and obviously the alcohol doesn't help.
You seem a little miffed that people give her a pass on her behavior after she's apologized. I kinda thought that's what family was about...?
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