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Have some self-respect. Don't use people. If you do, then your karma is your karma. This person is interested in you and you are leading him/her on. Ask a family member for money.
And you know for a fact that theyre interested in you.
No, snowflake, it's not ok to take money from someone you're not interested in, despite their interest in you. You can't expect someone to bail you out because of your own inability to provide for yourself.
Why am I knowing that the OP has an EBT card in their wallet while sitting at home on their leather sofa watching Jerry Springer eating lobster for dinner and texting on their iPhone7?
Of course, if they are willing to give it, than take it. Nothing wrong with that.
There is nothing wrong with that if you are a hooker. If you are a normal person with high morals or scruples or integrity then, IMHO, you do not take someone else's money.
I think the question is a little more complex than is being acknowledged here.
Of course it's wrong to take money from someone you are not romantically interested in, if you mislead them about your feelings. That's worse than simple manipulation, it's a lie. However...if the person in question is actually a friend (and by friend, I mean someone you genuinely like, just not as a romantic partner), AND you have been clear about the fact that they will remain a friend, and only a friend, regardless of any help they may or may not offer, I don't see a problem. You have been honest, and it is then up to them to decide whether or not to help. I also think it should be a matter of accepting help in an emergency, and not just using someone's feelings to get "nice stuff."
This kind of thing works both ways. There are people who will offer gifts or other assistance, even something as simple as a ride somewhere or help with a chore in the garden, insisting that it is simply a gesture of friendship, when they actually expect more. They are, in their way, being just as dishonest as someone who leads another person on to milk them for presents or money or other favors.
I've met lots of people who fell into both categories, as well as people who hung out with certain "friends" they didn't truly like, where romantic interest wasn't even an issue, for the benefits such an association offered, like party invitations, being treated at restaurants, and so on.
The only rules, at least for me, have always been: don't offer help with strings attached, don't accept help from people you don't care about, and never mislead anyone about your motives.
As in most relationship issues, honesty is the key.
[quote=TUMF;47938336]No, snowflake, it's not ok to take money from someone you're not interested in, despite their interest in you. You can't expect someone to bail you out because of your own inability to provide for yourself.
Why am I knowing that the OP has an EBT card in their wallet while sitting at home on their leather sofa watching Jerry Springer eating lobster for dinner and texting on their iPhone7?[/QUOTEl?
ABSOLUTELY NOT!! Sheesh! I am just asking a general question that randomly came to my mind and am very interested in what others think..what is your problem?
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