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Originally Posted by spencgr
So, you feel it is appropriate to invite a guest, and not their spouse, if it is a small venue?
It isn't.
If the venue isn't large enough for the spouse, don't invite either.
I don't really know. I'm just wondering. I'm really a little bit confused by current behavior and am wondering what's going on. I see a website of "wedding felons", and I see girls hosting their own wedding showers, or mothers hosting their own baby showers, and I'm just thinking, what the hell. This is another one of those what the hell moments, I'm blindsided by people's behavior.
Yep, husband calls the aunt, mistakes can happen. If it wasn't a mistake, well, as a husband i can tell you I would not be going. I don't like going to weddings anyway, sure as heck not going without my wife.
You're the third person who suggested calling the aunt - why? Unless the aunt sent the invitation the questions should be directed at the cousin; no need to beat around the bush and get other people involved.
I don't really know. I'm just wondering. I'm really a little bit confused by current behavior and am wondering what's going on. I see a website of "wedding felons", and I see girls hosting their own wedding showers, or mothers hosting their own baby showers, and I'm just thinking, what the hell. This is another one of those what the hell moments, I'm blindsided by people's behavior.
And they will continue as long as people of "that generation/age group" allow it to. Sadly, they don't realize or care how rude, inconsiderate, low-class, needy, and tacky this "trend" is. All of us who know better should decline to attend, and when asked why, tell the truth that this is just tacky and unacceptable.
As far as not inviting the wife of 10 years, I have one thing to say....No, No, and H*ll No. Not acceptable at all.
You're the third person who suggested calling the aunt - why? Unless the aunt sent the invitation the questions should be directed at the cousin; no need to beat around the bush and get other people involved.
It's because the aunt is sort of a buffer. If you call the cousin he might just say "oh it was a mistake" when it really wasn't, then OP would feel an awkward vibe. Maybe the bride had a budget and cut down her guest list by omitting OP. Usually the aunt would know the full truth. I'd rather get the scoop that way.
Last edited by Coloradomom22; 05-01-2017 at 08:47 PM..
I don't think it's an oversight and yes, it is rude.
Hubby should not attend the wedding, nor send a gift, although a greeting card signed "Best wishes from the two of us" would be appropriate, as long as there is no money or gift card inside.
Bingo. They knew what they were doing and it is VERY rude. As a husband, he needs to be as offended as you are, and simply not go. I swear, people have lost all their social graces.
At the very least, he should call them and say "By the way, you do know I am married, don't you ?" It will be interesting to hear how this one turns out.
Bingo. They knew what they were doing and it is VERY rude. As a husband, he needs to be as offended as you are, and simply not go. I swear, people have lost all their social graces.
At the very least, he should call them and say "By the way, you do know I am married, don't you ?" It will be interesting to hear how this one turns out.
Yes, I am curious. I don't know anything about wedding felons or what that even means. I have never been invited to a wedding where I wasn't given the option of RSVPing for one or two.
Maybe it's a small wedding and they can't afford to include everyone and their spouse. I am really surprised so many people are up on arms about it.
Think about this. You and I are married, and I get an invitation to a wedding and go alone. How does that make you feel, and what kind of husband would I be to leave you home alone while I attend ?
My first concern is always going to be my mate, and if they are too cheap to be able to have both of us there, then only invite immediate family.
Maybe it's a small wedding and they can't afford to include everyone and their spouse. I am really surprised so many people are up on arms about it.
If they can't afford it, they could handle it more gracefully by going down to the court house and getting married privately.
Excluding a spouse at a wedding screams that you have no business getting married.
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