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They should've asked - but did they they ask your husband?
One of my family members brings their dog everywhere, even for just a couple of hours. Well behaved dog, but still annoying as it lies in bad places, farts, licks feet in sandals or bare legs and you do have to be mindful of your food. But it's not at my house so I don't say anything.
is there an actual sig that says no emotional support dogs ? they could be sued and most likely they will be just wait .
A suit wont get anyone far. ESAs aren't protected. They really are just pets, legally. It isn't the same as a ADA dog who has to be trained to do at least one thing for a disabled person, and the person has to have a disability covered by law. At first I didn't think this was all a big deal, but its getting out of control in some parts of the country and real disabled people with working dogs will be hurt by it.
As to the OP...I guess I wouldn't bring it up. Yeah, its kind of (or a lot) rude to bring your pooch to someone's house without asking. But you aren't just someone...you are grandma. They might feel like you would never mind anything if it means seeing them.
I would be willing to bet the puppy will come less as it ages, and the elder dog will pass in time. I would hate to see a family feud over it.
To reply to some of the questions: I’ve been “in the picture” for over 30 years, so I’m not some new interloper. I don’t think they’ve brought dogs before (perhaps once or twice with well housebroken dogs, which these two were not). My husband was probably more disgusted than I was. I will leave it up to him if he wants to lay the law down for the next visit. I made a pledge to myself and to him before we got married I would not interfere with his relationship with his children and so far I’ve kept that promise.
is there an actual sig that says no emotional support dogs ? they could be sued and most likely they will be just wait .
Wrong. Restaurants are not housing. They do not have to allow emotional support animals (98% of the time a fancy name for a pet). They do have to allow true service animals.
To reply to some of the questions: I’ve been “in the picture” for over 30 years, so I’m not some new interloper. I don’t think they’ve brought dogs before (perhaps once or twice with well housebroken dogs, which these two were not). My husband was probably more disgusted than I was. I will leave it up to him if he wants to lay the law down for the next visit. I made a pledge to myself and to him before we got married I would not interfere with his relationship with his children and so far I’ve kept that promise.
You both seem to be in agreement on how to handle it, so that's half the battle there. As far as what to do, maybe talk to granddaughter and daughter to find out why they brought the dogs. Perhaps they didn't want to leave the pup to chew the house, or were afraid for the older dog to be alone because of health issues? If their concerns seem reasonable and you want to keep the peace, a dog crate in the yard, garage, etc, might be a good compromise.
I grew up in a rural area where everyone had a dog (or two or three dogs). And, in my entire childhood (1950s/1960s) I can not remember ever seeing anyone bring a dog to someone else's house for a party or a get-together or see a dog in a store. Even in my college days and adulthood, in large cities, where many people that I knew had dogs, not one dog ever attended a cook-out or party or visited someone's house. And, again I never, even once saw a dog (excluding a very few times that I saw a service dog helping someone who was blind) in a store or a restaurant.
But, in the last few years it seems that people expect that they should be able to take their dogs every where.
I was born in 1963, and my childhood memories are the same as yours: people generally left their dogs at home when they went visiting. No one would have considered it OK to bring Fido along to someone else's house as a surprise guest. It would have been seen as terribly rude.
I suspect the kids in question have jobs, which in most cases means the dogs are of necessity left home during the workday. So why can't they leave their dogs at home for the few hours this visit entailed? From the dog's point of view, there's no difference.
I do think that the OP might consider shifting future get-togethers to the kids' houses, as roads aren't unidirectional and the issue can be avoided entirely if she and her husband go visit them instead of inviting them over to her house. But I also think there's absolutely nothing wrong with telling the kids they need to ASK before bringing their pooches over, instead of simply assuming it's going to be OK. And the OP should feel free to say no to that request if she'd really rather not have the dogs around on a particular occasion.
I grew up in a rural area where everyone had a dog (or two or three dogs). And, in my entire childhood (1950s/1960s) I can not remember ever seeing anyone bring a dog to someone else's house for a party or a get-together or see a dog in a store.
People didn't used to bring their damn children everywhere either, but here we are.
is there an actual sig that says no emotional support dogs ? they could be sued and most likely they will be just wait .
FYI emotional support dogs are not covered by the service dog rules and therefore aren't allowed. https://adata.org/publication/service-animals-booklet. Dogs who are trained to handle issues like PTSD or other psychiatric issues are service dogs. The key is "trained" to do something besides providing comfort.
People didn't used to bring their damn children everywhere either, but here we are.
This thread is about people bringing dogs to their mothers/grandmothers house. What do children have to do with that? As far as I can recall, children have always been brought to visits with their grandparents. Maybe your growing up experience was different than mine, but in my family, children have always been welcome.
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