What can I do about my friend wanting to bring his niece everywhere we go? (person)

[gentlearts]

Friend to OP, “Do you want to hang out tonight?”
OP to friend, “Is niece going?”
Friend to OP, “Yes.”
OP to friend, “No.”

Keep doing it until he gets it.

[Mr_Geek]

"No." is a complete sentence you should utilize with this friend.

[North Beach Person]

Originally Posted by gentlearts

Friend to OP, “Do you want to hang out tonight?”
OP to friend, “Is niece going?”
Friend to OP, “Yes.”
OP to friend, “No.”

Keep doing it until he gets it.

I don't know if this has been mentioned but is it possible that the friend is trying to set them up?

[gentlearts]

Originally Posted by North Beach Person

I don't know if this has been mentioned but is it possible that the friend is trying to set them up?

I think it has been mentioned, but after the first few tries, it should have been evident that its not happening.

[ironpony]

But the friend knows I am have a gf, so he wouldn't be trying to set me up with his niece.

[zentropa]

Hey, ironpony, did you ever tell him no?

[ironpony]

Well the last few times when we agree to hang out he kind of springs on her on me as a surprise, like all of a sudden she shows up and I was not aware that he invited her until he says he did, and then she shows up, but I don't think it was his intention to surprise me.

As for the idea suggested before that I should bring my gf along and she can chat with her and I can talk with my friend, I don't want to subject my gf to his niece's conversing, which I find to be negative and stressful.

[bbtondo]

Obviously your friend values his niece more than you. Move on and focus on other friends. You can't change the situation.

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by ironpony

Well the last few times when we agree to hang out he kind of springs on her on me as a surprise, like all of a sudden she shows up and I was not aware that he invited her until he says he did, and then she shows up, but I don't think it was his intention to surprise me.

I don't see anywhere in your post where you asked your friend to not invite his niece along when you first made your plans.

I assume you did that.

Did he just ignore you and do it anyway? He doesn't sound like much of a friend. Is he in love with her?

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by bbtondo

Obviously your friend values his niece more than you. Move on and focus on other friends. You can't change the situation.

What's obvious is that the OP hasn't actually told his friend that he'd prefer the niece not to be invited all the time. The friend is trying to have a relationship with his niece and expand her social circle, which isn't inherently bad, but he doesn't know that she's not welcome.