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Zentropa you're entitled to your opinions as I am to mine. We just agree to disagree. Enough said.
Disagree about what though? That you weren't fawned over by an ex in a parking lot...even when you have a new GF, that you just had to tell and then post here?
Saturday last I was out running errands. I stopped in to a local coffee shop along the way to grab coffee, and as I leave, I see a former friend in the parking lot. The former friend. The crazy widow/ex-FWB. Many of you know the back story.
Anyway, I go to my car with my coffee; she's sitting in her car texting. She looks up, sees me, I begin to nod (just out of politeness....I'm not speaking to her) she looks back down to her phone. Not a word, not a return of acknowledging, not nothing! Like two total strangers!
I was pretty mad about her past behavior - emphasis on was - but that is history now and I'm not one to stay mad. I get over it and move on. But wouldn't you think that someone you knew would at the very least say hello, or give a nod, or whatever?
Oh, and FWIW, we're both in relationships now, so perish what you may be thinking along those lines.
Weigh in on this.
The opposite of love is indifference. She was indifferent to you.
You may need to work on your resentments still so that you don't let her actions affect you.
If you were truly over her (I'm not going to search for the back history to this relationship), her indifference wouldn't bother you. You nodded out of politeness, you say and she didn't acknowledge you. Yes, it might be rude behavior, but given your history, she might be ignoring you and acting like you don't exist to her. You didn't shrug off her supposed rudeness, you let it get under your skin. You told your new girl friend (why, so she could validate your feelings- yes, X was so mean to you?) and made a post on it on CD. You say that you get angry but don't stay angry and you still treat people with politeness. Maybe she gets angry and holds a grudge for a longer period of time. Maybe her perception of what went down between you still colors the way she feels about you and you are essentially 'dead' to her so you don't require any form of acknowledgment.
Disagree about what though? That you weren't fawned over by an ex in a parking lot...even when you have a new GF, that you just had to tell and then post here?
Bizarre.
Very unbecoming behavior for a stable, drama- avoidant man, yes.
Two things have happened with me in the last year: 1) I retired after 20+ years in a job that stressed me no end; 2) I met someone and am in a stable relationship. Add to which I'm working diligently to start my own business. I don't have time for anger, animosity or hatred - I've gone forward with a new, positive attitude and outlook.
Your retired? I was thinking you were in your 20s.
If you were truly over her (I'm not going to search for the back history to this relationship), her indifference wouldn't bother you. You nodded out of politeness, you say and she didn't acknowledge you. Yes, it might be rude behavior, but given your history, she might be ignoring you and acting like you don't exist to her. You didn't shrug off her supposed rudeness, you let it get under your skin. You told your new girl friend (why, so she could validate your feelings- yes, X was so mean to you?) and made a post on it on CD. You say that you get angry but don't stay angry and you still treat people with politeness. Maybe she gets angry and holds a grudge for a longer period of time. Maybe her perception of what went down between you still colors the way she feels about you and you are essentially 'dead' to her so you don't require any form of acknowledgment.
Exactly. You just shrug your shoulders and have a quick laugh to yourself, and you don't tell anyone.
Have to wonder what the new girlfriend now thinks, maybe she is wondering how she rates compared to this woman, which is why you don't mention something like this. Maybe if they ran into each and words were exchange, but across a parking lot....no.
I think you did the right thing, with a polite nod. Who cares if she responded in kind, or not? She saw you doing the polite thing. IOW, you took the high road. Good going! That's all that matters.
I agree. This reaction is a reflection of her character not the OP. After this though if there’s another happenstance meeting I’d just ignore her.
So what? Wow, talk about much ado about nothing - to add to the Shakespeare quotes.
She's clearly moved on - you do the same. No need to collect a pound of flesh (sorry, couldn't resist one more Shakespeare reference).
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