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Nobody texts me as the automated response clearly states that texts will be deleted without being viewed.
That is the reason I get few phone calls and texts - I don't answer the phone; don't check for messages. If you have something to discuss, send me an email. I'll read it at least once a week.
In my family, we might not answer a text for a few hours, because, you know, we are busy. So, text him a couple times a day, and answer some of his questions. He’ll get used to it.
You could taper off over a couple of weeks, so as not to alarm him.
In my family, we might not answer a text for a few hours, because, you know, we are busy. So, text him a couple times a day, and answer some of his questions. He’ll get used to it.
You could taper off over a couple of weeks, so as not to alarm him.
That's a good idea. If you get too many texts, slow down in your replies until he's sent several, then reply to them en masse with one text. It's like multi-quoting here on the forum.
Answer his each several texts with one bulk reply. Wear him down until you are cool with the volume.
That is the reason I get few phone calls and texts - I don't answer the phone; don't check for messages. If you have something to discuss, send me an email. I'll read it at least once a week.
Ok, NY Annie, you don't answer your phone, you don't look at your texts, but you do check your email at least weekly. What if there's something important? An emergency type situation?
In my family, we might not answer a text for a few hours, because, you know, we are busy. So, text him a couple times a day, and answer some of his questions. He’ll get used to it.
You could taper off over a couple of weeks, so as not to alarm him.
Thank you all. I think this is the answer. I guess I usually respond to texts immediately (hence why his prolific texting drives me nuts) so this will take practice. I don’t feel the need to respond immediately to other modes of communication so I guess I can do this this text. It will take some adjusting to though.
PS- what do I do about the “Goodmorning” texts at 7am every single morning? Not respond until the evening?
I'd like further clarification of "nothing". Seinfeld was always referred to as a "show about nothing" but that clearly was not accurate.
OP, if not too difficult or intrusive, could you copy/paste or screenshot a one day exchange of texts between you and your brother?
7am Him: Good morning, sis
7am Me: Good morning, bro
10am Him: How's your day going, sis?
10am Me: (Here sometimes I say "Good" and sometimes I'll elaborate on what's going on at the moment)
Depending on what I say to the above he'll elaborate based on what I have said until there is nothing more to say on that.
12pm Him: I'm hungry.
12pm Me: Me too.
1:30pm Him: What did you eat?
1:30pm Me: Some leftovers I had from last night.
Then he'll ask me what the leftovers were and then tell me if he likes that or not (I never ask)
3:30pm Him: I have to go to the gym today but I really don't feel like it.
3:30pm Me: Do whatever works.
While he's at the gym, he'll text me about whatever has caught his attention like someone working out funny or a hot girl or how he's sore or needs to do more of X exercise. Which I have nothing to contribute.
6:30 Him: What are you up to tonight?
6:30 Me: I either say "Not much" or will elaborate. I have noticed if I say I'm out with friends he'll stop texting.
9:30 Him: I'm going to bed early tonight.
9:30 Me: Okay goodnight.
Rinse and repeat EVERY SINGLE DAY. Some days we have variations on this or discuss something deeper but 85% of our text convos are like this.
OP srjth, the person you know sounds very lonely. He's using texting and communicating with you as a way to alleviate his loneliness.
When we are visiting and in each others physical presence, he texts all day/night long with other people too (I do not do that). I assume when he's back home and texting with me that he's also texting with others as well. I think it 's an extrovert thing, except he enjoys "extroverting" over text.
Thank you all. I think this is the answer. I guess I usually respond to texts immediately (hence why his prolific texting drives me nuts) so this will take practice. I don’t feel the need to respond immediately to other modes of communication so I guess I can do this this text. It will take some adjusting to though.
PS- what do I do about the “Goodmorning” texts at 7am every single morning? Not respond until the evening?
Wow if someone sent me those it would be a rude awakening. If I’m up at 7 like right now it’s because I’m about to sleep lol. Goodnight
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