Had an Amazing Family Gathering today (brother, Christmas, house, meeting)
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Please stop saying it's scary. I'm a nice guy. I have no ill will.
Yes around 2006, but the point is that we used to have family traditions for over 50 years. My father was always invited. You have to take that into account. More than 60 or 80 years actually if you take into account that my grandma also spent lots of time with that side of the family. My father was there the day his cousin was born. It continued for a long time until who knows what happened...
Family traditions change. Family Dynamics change. People get married and add people to their family. Maybe they are now going to their in-laws or have a house full and so they dropped your family off the guest list. We entertained our bro-in-law's parents and a few other assorted relatives for about 20 years until we decided we had had enough with it being "our job.". Not everyone is interested in family outside of their kids and grandkids. We get older, we change..... people pass in and out of our lives. You can't make everyone be interested in extended family. I have cousins I wouldn't recognize if I passed them on the street and I want to keep it that way.
Please stop saying it's scary. I'm a nice guy. I have no ill will.
It's scary. See below.
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Originally Posted by Spuggy
A nice person doesn’t try to conjure up petty spiteful ways to get back at someone who for their own reasons has decided to remain distant. Your obsession is scary.
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Originally Posted by Parnassia
This is an elementary school age brag. Triggered by a childish desire to score some obscure point over someone else. Suspect no one will care other than fellow elementary school aged people.
So it is up to them... EVERY. SINGLE. TIME??? Really? That is insane. Your dad has taken them out one time in half a century and somehow it is their fault for not following up? It is no wonder that they stopped hosting. I would too if I were in their shoes.
My mom says it's because they have a bigger immediate family than us, so they have to invite us.
Family traditions change. Family Dynamics change. People get married and add people to their family. Maybe they are now going to their in-laws or have a house full and so they dropped your family off the guest list. We entertained our bro-in-law's parents and a few other assorted relatives for about 20 years until we decided we had had enough with it being "our job.". Not everyone is interested in family outside of their kids and grandkids. We get older, we change..... people pass in and out of our lives. You can't make everyone be interested in extended family. I have cousins I wouldn't recognize if I passed them on the street and I want to keep it that way.
I bet if I had a time machine, let's just say hypothetically, if I could go back to the 90's and ask them if they would ever stop inviting us, I bet they would laugh and say, ''No you're family. We love having you. Anytime.''
But they have snubbed us. Yet she had the audacity to write on my FB when I posted the old photos. And she said she'd like to get together, yet didn't respond to my response.
So it is up to them... EVERY. SINGLE. TIME??? Really? That is insane. Your dad has taken them out one time in half a century and somehow it is their fault for not following up? It is no wonder that they stopped hosting. I would too if I were in their shoes.
I will say this though. Our new cousins came and my mom says she hopes they invite us over there instead of us always inviting. But then they expected our cousins to always invite us until one day it stopped. She says that they are a bigger family so should have the responsibility of having us over there.
My mom says it's because they have a bigger immediate family than us, so they have to invite us.
Nobody has to invite anybody. You and mom need to quit with the entitled attitue.
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