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Yeah for sure, my dad isn’t a fan of me moving either and it created a lot of tension. The idea that you should continue to live somewhere you hate simply because someone else is there - anyone, wife, husband, parent, friend - is totally ridiculous. I also don’t know what these unrelated and equally idiotic comments are here about “job, money, job.” Dude wow life isn’t about some numbers, it’s about happiness and if you can’t find it where you live, it’s time to move. It’s a cute idea that everywhere is great it’s just your attitude but that’s not reality. In my city I can’t go get a nice dinner after 9, it’s not happening, and I’m a night owl - a provable, unalterable biological chronotype like any other that isn’t going away. So I won’t be happy in a sleepy city, bottom line. When I want to go out and have fun, I don’t want boring cities, I want the Las Vegas Strip at my disposal. When I pay my taxes I don’t want to file a state return for where I live, because I don’t want to pay state taxes. When I drive on a road I don’t want to be stuck in traffic forever. Where you live matters and to me most places suck, I wound the want to live there.
As for if it gets better, I think communication is important. My dad and I talked more after things came to a head and I feel like he understood more that I won’t just be unhappy in life living somewhere I detest simply because he’s here for six months a year (he leaves the other half of the year!). People need to adjust and life is way too short to spend even 5 minutes making someone else happy if doing so makes you miserable. Forget them, if they actually cared about you or loved you they want what’s best for you, not them.
Make sure dad has your forwarding address for the monthly checks.
My mom cried a lot when I married a career military guy. We moved, moved, and moved again. Dad finally told her to stop crying because we had a place to live and enough money to cover our expenses.
My wife and I are moving out of state. Every time we mention it to my parents, my mom cries. She's against it. I'm 33 and have been at my job here almost 10 years. We're ready for a change, and milder winters, in fact I know we'd be much happier in a warmer, sunnier climate. Has anyone else experienced this? Does it get better overtime?
What a shame. 33 and Mom can't let go.
Does she often manipulate you like this? What does your wife -- you know, the person you're supposed to put before all others now -- say about Mom's waterworks?
I imagine your wife is pretty happy about moving to be near her family.
I'm lucky that no one in my family ever gave me grief over leaving the area where I grew up. Actually ALL of us (kids) did, pretty much as soon as we could.
Make sure dad has your forwarding address for the monthly checks.
Huh?! My dad and I talk on the phone often and he knows we’ll both visit each other pretty often too. I don’t know what your comment is supposed to imply, I certainly don’t get “checks” from my dad.
Moms cry. That's just what they do. Stay the course and enjoy your new location.
Lots of crying when its time to go back home in our family too. It's what we do! I start, then my granddaughter starts, then my daughter, my grandson makes fun of us then my son in law cries too. We love each other! Just have the next trip planned.
I just reminded them that they moved away from their parents.
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