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I've been told that people are attracted to my energy level, my sense of humor, my wittiness (I won "Most Witty" in high school - har har!), and my enthusiasm. I've always been a cheap date because I get happy and excited about even small things! And I'm sincere about it. I also know that many people, including my husband and my employers, have always admired my industrious nature and work ethic. I've been told that I have a great smile and laugh, but I think everyone has a great smile and laugh when they let it go, and I encourage everyone to do so!
In just about every interview I've ever had, I've told my prospective employer that if I can't have fun while I'm working, I just don't want to be there. I can only think of one job I didn't get offered afterward, and I'm very glad I didn't get it.
I've made a change in the last year or so. I smile and say hi more then I ever used to, and I always say "Have a great day!" People seem to respond to that and it makes me feel good to do it. When I was growing up, I was told I had a black cloud hanging over my head, and I realized (after 50 years) that that attitude was making MY life miserable. Spreading a little bit of joy is way more fun!
People who like me do for different reasons. I'm a bit of a chameleon. I can fit into just about any set of people except girly/mom circles, where I cannot seem to keep a look of disdain off my face.
My friends like me for being blunt, efficient, and caring in a practical way. I'm told that they love me for keeping it real... and part of that is helping in tangible ways. I like to do things for people I care about in the most meaningful way possible with as little fanfare as possible. I'm almost always available for them. I cook very well - VERY well - and can put out an amazing spread for any situation very quickly. Sometimes, people just want to be comforted. They say our home is beautiful and comfortable to be at and it's where people drive up, get out in tears, and stay for many hours, while I cook and clean and take care of everyone.
Family who like me do because I'm good at intuiting how people are feeling and am a good buffer to have around. I can put the bombastic ones in their place with minimal embarrassment to them and give room for the meek ones to crawl out and participate. Also, see: I cook VERY well.
Our house is where anyone who needs comforting goes, despite how flat I feel inside about the feelings aspect of their problems. It's a bit of a wonder to me, honestly, because again... I'm pretty blunt.
I put this here because I'm looking to hear what people have been told and I think Non-romantic is a purer kind of liking than Romantic (where looks often factor greatly).
Personally I wonder why people have liked me. I have some educated guesses, but no one has listed many specific reasons. Later I'll write more about that.
Basically, I'm a nice little nobody.
I'm way more loyal and down to Earth than most people, but not as smart or worldly and entertaining as others. I can work a room for a little bit, but only if its an easy crowd.
I don't really spend that much time working on my interpersonal skills. I have too many solitary pursuits. I'm also pretty negative.
People also like me because I don't give a **** about making $ and 'getting mine' so I never roll over people, throw them under the bus, or judge them because of 'where they are' at age 50. But you could also argue that's a negative trait to a lot of people.
I've been told that people are attracted to my energy level, my sense of humor, my wittiness (I won "Most Witty" in high school - har har!), and my enthusiasm. I've always been a cheap date because I get happy and excited about even small things! And I'm sincere about it. I also know that many people, including my husband and my employers, have always admired my industrious nature and work ethic. I've been told that I have a great smile and laugh, but I think everyone has a great smile and laugh when they let it go, and I encourage everyone to do so!
In just about every interview I've ever had, I've told my prospective employer that if I can't have fun while I'm working, I just don't want to be there. I can only think of one job I didn't get offered afterward, and I'm very glad I didn't get it.
I think you're great! I always love reading your responses. You are honest and smart!
I make people laugh. A lot. I'm generally cheerful and positive even when I'm being super jaded. I give good advice when asked. I am quick to help, especially when asked. I pay attention to what people tell me (which friends especially appreciate once they understand how difficult the ADD makes it to focus) and ask questions. I don't mind accommodating the needs of my friends' children. I will help you move. I will help you look for your dog when it is lost. I'm affectionate, and one friend has told me "No, no, Jrz. You LOVE your friends and we all know it." I'm kind of a human golden retriever.
I've been thinking about this a lot lately after making an unexpected friendship.
i take time to get to know people. if i want to know someone, i let them speak for themselves first--not 'tear in' with personal questions they may not be ready to answer.
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