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I am not nor have I ever been a kissy face huggy type person....I must get to know you first, before showing you affection....and I wear my heart on my sleeve. Not a good trait, but it's who I am.
So, this woman comes up to me at work, not introducing herself, slamming down her computer on my desk, and saying to me, "I'm going to pick your brain".
And I'm like... ok.....
So, when she is finished asking me how to do something, (apparently she is new) and she's an older woman, she moves in and says, I'm going to give you a hug...and I put out my hand, to stop her while saying, "I'm not into hugging at all". and she says, "Well I AM and she continues to hug me.
Now, that makes me so super uncomfortable. First, I have a compromised immune system....so hugging is off the table with most folks.
Second, to me, this is a real good example of "how not to act with others". If someone says, "I'm not into hugging others". Then please respect that. Of course I didn't push her away, but, my reaction to an unwanted hug was stiff as a board....lol
Have you ever encountered this? This to me is unacceptable behavior in the work place.
Now believe me, there are people at work who I've known for a long time and I hug, but whoa, first meeting....she never even told me her name or introduced herself?
I never hugged anyone at work, nor did I get hugged. It was hand shakes or high fives or just words of thanks or appreciation. Some people, yes usually older women, are like that though. They don't really see those personal boundaries and think they are being nice.
This is a person who doesn't want to keep their job. There's huggers everywhere and even some at work but if you say no and they still do it, I'd report it. It's rude, wrong, and weird.
There are a few people I work with who I've been known to hug (or they hug me) but these are people I've worked with for almost 15 years, and we've traveled together, hung out together, and developed friendships outside of work. Many of them work in different cities, so we don't see each other frequently, and when we do, we usually hug.
But for a random person in my office to hug me when I've expressed that I'd rather not? Hell no.
I never hugged anyone at work, nor did I get hugged. It was hand shakes or high fives or just words of thanks or appreciation. Some people, yes usually older women, are like that though. They don't really see those personal boundaries and think they are being nice.
Every once in a while, there are a few ladies, who we've known each other for years, they hug me....and they know I'm not really fond of it, but still do so and I tolerate it b/c I know them and like them very much, nice women, there are 3 of them, that I can think of, but I am not a hugger and they know it and respect that.
But this really surprised me, and yes, very unprofessional....
so much so, that if she comes around again, I'm going to tell her straight out....it might be nice for you to introduce yourself....and it's extremely unprofessional to give hugs to a stranger....especially in a work place environment.
What she did was extremely unprofessional. She might have come from a work environment which fostered such actions and therefore did it because it's a known factor, but someone should tell her that it was way out of place.
What she did was extremely unprofessional. She might have come from a work environment which fostered such actions and therefore did it because it's a known factor, but someone should tell her that it was way out of place.
Yes, I agree, and will do so...when I find out what her name is....we'll talk....believe me..that is no way to start a new job....
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