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Originally Posted by Scorpio60
The thing is my friend never asked me my advice or opinion. She just wanted to vent so I listened and said I wish the best for all involved. If and I repeat "if" she asked me what I thought then I would have been honest with her but she didn't.
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Continue to follow this. Your friend needs support only. Just like mom’s advice to her daughter, your advice won’t go over well or be the game changer the situation needs. The daughter isn’t going to take anyone’s advice much. The daughter needs to get her life together herself she is the only one you can. Be the sympathetic friend you’ve always been.
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Originally Posted by Scorpio60
The daughter got involved with her bf when she was 14 years old and they had their 1st child when she was 15. She's still very young but growing wiser with age so hopefully she means it this time as far as leaving him which is not my problem anyway. I would know if the bf was physically abusing her. Daughter knows he's not going to change. I agree that they shouldn't have had children especially so young.
There is also another side to this story where the daughter lies to bf, doesn't communicate with him and the list goes on. There are 2 sides to this story if I'm going to be fair. That said it still doesn't warrant bf saying mean words to her.
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You don’t need to know daughters side. It’s a bit gossipy, In court it’s hearsay. Try not to soak up or worry overly much. You really are pretty helpless to do much. You are an outsider. If your friend insists on you being more involved, just support her by having compassion for the terrible mess her daughter and family are in.