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Old 07-01-2009, 02:04 PM
 
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Many of my friends and relatives have divorced or legally separated. In most cases I could tell in advance that something was up even though he or she never told me verbally they were having problems. You could see the conflict in their interactions with each other and their body language.

But in many cases they seemed so compatible and loving towards each other, I would have never known they were having problems.

Could you tell in advance that a separation or divorce was coming with your friends or relatives?
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Old 07-01-2009, 02:09 PM
 
Location: NW Montana
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My husband's uncle and wife were coming to dinner at our house one Christmas. We ran into them at the grocery store three days before that and they just fine. He showed up on Christmas Eve with some strange, pregnant woman we had never met and announced he was going to be a father again. His wife and kids were nowhere to be seen. Talk about an interesting Christmas dinner THAT was. But, usually, you can tell when there is something going on.
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Old 07-01-2009, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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Many of my friends and relatives have divorced or legally separated. In most cases I could tell in advance that something was up even though he or she never told me verbally they were having problems. You could see the conflict in their interactions with each other and their body language.

But in many cases they seemed so compatible and loving towards each other, I would have never known they were having problems.

Could you tell in advance that a separation or divorce was coming with your friends or relatives?
Nope cause I never became that much involved with their relationships etc.
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Old 07-01-2009, 02:23 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Many of my friends and relatives have divorced or legally separated. In most cases I could tell in advance that something was up even though he or she never told me verbally they were having problems. You could see the conflict in their interactions with each other and their body language.

But in many cases they seemed so compatible and loving towards each other, I would have never known they were having problems.

Could you tell in advance that a separation or divorce was coming with your friends or relatives?

It can be shocking when an apparently happy couple suddenly separates, but remember, not everyone who divorces hates each others guts. Sometimes even when you care about someone, even love them, you can't stay married to them. What goes on in a marriage is really only known by the two people in it. Nothing shocks me anymore.
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Old 07-01-2009, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Rockland County New York
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My wife and I were shocked to hear that my cousin was divorced for two years before we found out. She got married two years before us in 1993 and thought she married a nice guy. We also found out at the same time she had already been married to husband number two for six months. Talk about close families.
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Old 07-02-2009, 07:31 AM
 
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Could you tell in advance that a separation or divorce was coming with your friends or relatives?
No. One brother-in-law has had every reason to leave his wife, what was bad nagging now is out-and-out emotional abuse, but it seems he has no intention of leaving. Even her own sisters think he should at least pretend to leave her in hopes that she would treat him better.

Another couple looked like the ideal couple, two perfectly behaved kids, a beautiful home in a nice neighborhood, immaculate house, they dressed very nice, had many couple friends. She was soft spoken, seemed very supportive and suddenly they divorced.

You just never know what really goes on behind closed doors. Many perfect couples are putting up a good front I think.
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Old 07-02-2009, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Orlando
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I've only had one couple that we know surprise me when they divorced.

I've had more surprise me that they stayed together.
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Old 07-02-2009, 08:19 AM
 
Location: North Shore Long Island
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I've been encouraging my sister to divorce her DH! She finally filed last month and moves out next week. I'm just shocked that it took her this long to see what an a-hole he is.

Otherwise as an adult, I don't know of any other couples separating or divorcing.
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Old 07-03-2009, 09:58 AM
 
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With all of them no, and acouple tried to hide the intial seperation or divorce.

All of the match-ups were bound for failure.

One cousin is getting divorced, but I dont she ever treated him right, she never spoke a word to any of us at family events.
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Old 11-12-2015, 07:02 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Nothing really surprises me anymore when it comes to people.

However, we thought we would have some clue something was wrong when my brother and his wife got their marriage annulled a year after the wedding. Everyone was floored. And we're still not quite sure what happened.

My neighbor just revealed to me recently that her husband has cheated on her at least four times. I wasn't surprised at all. That man waters his lawn everyday against city regulations. Anyone is willing to break the rules and think that he is above the rules is not someone you should trust personally, either.
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