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Two months after baby was born, I went out with a family member because it was my birthday. Let me tell you although the dinner was lovely, I truly would have prefered to do it later down the line. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go out as a new mom. I had bed rest through out my pregnancy and I totally missed fall and winter in NYC. When I did go out I was shocked it was blazing summer and I didn't have a thing to wear! Moms no matter what if they are single, married, new to the game or a professional need to get out and let their hair down. Seriously, we had lives before our child came along and we should have lives thereafter albeit a bit more restricted.
My husband's sister got married 3 weeks after my first child was born-My aunt kept her for me -I was so exhausted-I went home and slept while my husband went out with all the young people from the wedding. I had NO desire!!
My husband's sister got married 3 weeks after my first child was born-My aunt kept her for me -I was so exhausted-I went home and slept while my husband went out with all the young people from the wedding. I had NO desire!!
You still took advantage of your alone time and did what you wanted: uninterrupted sleep! (Isn't that what every new mother wants? LOL) Good for you!
I distinctly remember the desire to get out of the house about 5 weeks after having my son. He was 3 weeks early, I'd had a c-section, and had barely even been able to get out to the store, let alone anyplace else. I didn't want to get out without the baby, I just wanted out, and wanted to feel like I could still have some semblance of my former life. My husband and I had a local pub we liked to go to. It was like Cheers where everyone knew everyone. We took the baby with us and each had one beer. We showed the baby off to our friends there. It was probably 4:30 or 5 pm. We probably went home for dinner.
I also remember leaving the baby with my husband so I could go to a book store, have some coffee, and read a magazine alone.
By that time, I was well out of college, done partying, I didn't feel the need to go out drinking and dancing.
I remember the first time we left our first baby alone (with grandmother) and went to a restaurant down the road for a quick lunch. We talked ALL THE TIME about the baby!
I might raise an eyebrow if someone was constantly out partying to all hours night after night after night while leaving an infant at home. However, I try not to be judgmental of other parents since becoming one myself.
My partying days were long gone before I even had kids, so it's hard for me to say if I would have done it when I was younger. On the other hand, I was happy to go back to work and be around other adults and go out to lunch.
My mom stayed with me for a month after my first baby so I took advantage of the opportunity for a long evening out with DH, knew the opportunity wouldn't happen again very soon. Not much drinking though, breastfeeding pretty much nixed that. Actually breastfeeding nixed a lot of long evenings out, just not as much fun to have to stop and pump every four or five hours...
It's the line that this new mother wants to "hit the bars and drink some beers" that raises red flags with me. Sounds like a someone who enjoyed partying and doesn't want to give it up?
A dinner out I can absolutely see. I can remember going out to a restaurant a month afterwards, looking at the menu, marveling at all the choices and thinking, "Wow! I can have anything I want. And I don't have to cook it. And somebody is going to bring it to me."
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But I agree that being single would be relevant. Single parenting is very stressful.
