Thanks Guys ~ you are making me feel so much better.
And Hopes - thanks for your powerful post reminding me that my son does not need a label put on him. That that comment has stayed with you all these years. . . . and your Mother probably didn't even realize how much of an impact that had on you.
We went school shopping today and had a late lunch outside - I so enjoyed my time with him. (Though I couldn't get him to go to the movie
We talked and talked and laughed.
He told me that he is glad that we moved here; that he has grown as a person for it. That in our old town (wealthy little suburb where everyone is keeping up with the Joneses) he spent too much time worrying what people were thinking and he doesn't have to do that anymore in this big pond.
He did tell me that he has not been able to form the strong friendship bonds here that he had at home ~ but he would rather stay here than move back home right now.
Well, actually, he wants to move back to our old STATE but not our old hometown. He wants to move to another little town - with a different swim team - (and the girl he keeps in touch with whose name was never mentioned). I can't promise him that and told him so. I'm not even sure it would be the right thing to do. For sure, the schools would not compare.
He wants to go on college visits this year and we talked about the ones he has his eye on.
So . . . I do feel better; he seems like he has it together. Yes, I would love for him to relax and let his hair down a bit . . . but maybe he will yet.
So, I appreciate everyone's comments and insights. I've never been a teen-age boy, and this is my first time parenting one ~ so I can definitely learn from the experience of others.