Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Noël Plummer can't imagine making a conscious decision to inflict physical pain on her 8-year-old daughter as a punishment. She's only slapped her daughter once, without thinking, when her then-5-year-old was having an enormous tantrum.
Yes, pro-active parenting. I have always felt children behave well, when they are rested, clean, and well fed. Any one who has been with an over tired, hungry child knows that.
I have never heard a good reason to use physical punishment or seen a child (and I am teacher and have known hundreds of children who have all acted out at some point) who needed to be spanked.
No one has ever been able to explain how hitting your child is anything but convincing them it is okay for people who are supposed to love you are allowed to hit you.
It is the one parenting choice I cannot understand ever.
There's a difference between abuse and discipline. Swatting your child on their rear when they need it is NOT abuse, however, beating your child IS abuse even when they "needed it."
My grandma used to hit me with a stick (or a "switch" I think it was called) on my butt and it did work. She did the same thing with my mom and my uncle when they were little as well. My other set of Grandparents used to send my dad, uncle and my aunt all to time out and spank them as well. However, with their grand-kids, they just yelled and sent them to time out. They never once hit or spanked us.
My son gets the occasional swat as a warning but not anything painful. He only gets a spanking when he does something that puts him in danger. He gets a lecture, a spanking and possibly a time out if its bad enough. if he tries to put something in a socket-spanking. he goes in the road- spanking. he wanders away- spanking.
There's a difference between abuse and discipline. Swatting your child on their rear when they need it is NOT abuse, however, beating your child IS abuse even when they "needed it."
My grandma used to hit me with a stick (or a "switch" I think it was called) on my butt and it did work. She did the same thing with my mom and my uncle when they were little as well. My other set of Grandparents used to send my dad, uncle and my aunt all to time out and spank them as well. However, with their grand-kids, they just yelled and sent them to time out. They never once hit or spanked us.
Oh, I do not remotely claim that spanking does not work.
But do you disagree with the fact that it teaches children it is okay for some people to hit other people?
My son gets the occasional swat as a warning but not anything painful. He only gets a spanking when he does something that puts him in danger. He gets a lecture, a spanking and possibly a time out if its bad enough. if he tries to put something in a socket-spanking. he goes in the road- spanking. he wanders away- spanking.
My children were all raised without the hitting. They did the same kinds of things but there are other methods. I think we can all agree that there are multiple ways that WORK to correct dangerous behaviors.
But I still have not heard anything that contradicts the fact that spanking tells children the most fundamental way (by actually doing) that it is okay for some people to hit other people. The fact that we are telling them through our actions that it is acceptable for people who LOVE them to hit them is why I have an issue with corporal punishment.
There's a difference between abuse and discipline. Swatting your child on their rear when they need it is NOT abuse, however, beating your child IS abuse even when they "needed it."
Regardless of whether it is abuse or not, it is still a terribly ineffective teaching tool for teaching anything of value. It teaches I am bigger than you so you have to obey me. Whom will they obey when they grow up? Or will they be big and require others to obey?
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
