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Like many others, I got whooped with the belt as a kid - but only if I did something really bad.
I'm a CPS worker, yet I still believe strongly in disciplining children. I've never used the belt on my own daughter when she was small; I did swat her a couple times (with my hand). But your opinion here...
Belt - discipline? Or abuse?
Back when I was a kid I got the belt, because my parents didn't know any better. Back then I'd call it discipline. Because you can only know what you know.
But now studies have shown the negative consequences, and there are procedures available to instruct parents on how to provide the same level of discipline without physical violence (such as properly executed timeouts). So if you are STILL using the belt in this day and age, I would consider it abuse.
The belt is acceptable in really bad circumstances but here its legal to open hand spank your kids on the butt. A swat on the butt in the store when they are not listening really straightens them out fast.Most timesafyer they got the belt once you can just threaten to use it to get them to start behaving. I dont find the belt to be abuse unless its taken to far and used to often.
Like many others, I got whooped with the belt as a kid - but only if I did something really bad.
I'm a CPS worker, yet I still believe strongly in disciplining children. I've never used the belt on my own daughter when she was small; I did swat her a couple times (with my hand). But your opinion here... Belt - discipline? Or abuse?
Seriously? In 2016?
While I believe kids today lacks punishment but with a belt?
The reason that using an object is abuse rather than discipline is because you end up hitting harder than you would with an open hand. When you discipline with an open hand, your hand will hurt too, which reminds you to stop before you take things too far.
My mom used to use a plastic or wooden spoon because she said her hands were too delicate and our butts (and everywhere else she decided to hit) were too hard. She also used a belt sometimes, and she would kick us with shoes that had really thick, hard soles. My MIL beat my husband with sticks, a curtain rod, wire hangers, belts, the broom handle, anything she could grab. What our mothers did to us was abuse. It always went too far.
Personally, I don't spank my kids. I actually don't do much in the way of discipline other than talking to them about the consequences of their actions and how their actions made me feel. It works for us.
A whipping with a belt is nothing compared to one with a switch. I remember when I was five years old getting switched with every step I took from our front yard to the back door for refusing to come in the house when my Mother called me. Needless to say, I minded her after that!
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