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There is no laws against OP having a stern talk with this women, either. My guess is no laws have been broken (yet), but this married women still needs to know it's not appropriate to prey on this woman's son.
No concern with having a conversation with the women in question, but thats totally different than getting police involved for something that so far, does not contain any laws broken.
When I was 50, I could talk to my friend's 19 yo son for 5 hours. About music, about concerts, about the universe, about life.
i'm in my 40's, and my kids friends, all about the age of 16, come to me constantly to talk. They feel I'm far more approachable than their parents to discuss issues, while at the same point, my kids, open up to my friends. We trust each other fully, and would never encourage bad behavior.
I'd never ever jump to the conclusion that wrongdoing is taking place, but consider the fact she's a complete stranger, I sure think its appropriate for the OP to put the woman on notice that they know there is discussions taking place, and that they find it inappropriate and at the very least, ask to keep the conversations during appropriate times etc or cease out of concern for the boy in question.
She may, or may not comply with the wishes, I'm betting not, they will just move their conversations back online at which point the OP can file a trespass warning, but since the conversation now moved online, proving the communication continues, assuming it would, will be that much harder.
Seriously, how many 40 year old strangers called you during the middle of the night and kept you on the phone 5 hours at a time when you were a teen? Boundaries??
Seriously, how many 40 year old strangers called you during the middle of the night and kept you on the phone 5 hours at a time when you were a teen? Boundaries??
Let her know that if contact continues or if she mentions you got involved all the information is going straight to the police and she can explain herself to them.
Texts have been erased. What proof could be taken to police? I would be thinking about disconnecting the phoneto get the son's attention.
i'm in my 40's, and my kids friends, all about the age of 16, come to me constantly to talk. They feel I'm far more approachable than their parents to discuss issues, while at the same point, my kids, open up to my friends. We trust each other fully, and would never encourage bad behavior.
I'd never ever jump to the conclusion that wrongdoing is taking place, but consider the fact she's a complete stranger, I sure think its appropriate for the OP to put the woman on notice that they know there is discussions taking place, and that they find it inappropriate and at the very least, ask to keep the conversations during appropriate times etc or cease out of concern for the boy in question.
She may, or may not comply with the wishes, I'm betting not, they will just move their conversations back online at which point the OP can file a trespass warning, but since the conversation now moved online, proving the communication continues, assuming it would, will be that much harder.
Glad I'm not the only one who finds it not that unusual to talk to an adult when you're a teen. I definitely think OP & her DH should put the woman on notice with a phone call. My money is that she will comply with their wishes. I'm guessing she doesn't know his age or if she does, she hasn't thought it through what it could seem like (the conclusion everyone is jumping to here). A phone call from the parents I think will scare her OR the parents may learn that she is innocently helping him with a problem they don't even know about & is taking on the role of a parental figure (like someone suggested he could be thinking of running away & she could be talking him out of it). They won't know til they call. A conversation gives everyone the chance to come clean without accusations or jumping to conclusions. It also puts them on notice if something more nefarious is going on.
No concern with having a conversation with the women in question, but thats totally different than getting police involved for something that so far, does not contain any laws broken.
I agree -- but there is no harm in letting the police come to that same conclusion.
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I would be thinking about disconnecting the phoneto get the son's attention.
