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Wow, I guess that means I either have to quit my job, or loose my best girl friend then huh? I mean she IS my boss, and she DOES have the authority to "discipline" me, and/or fire me if needed.
It's 2009, not 1952; gossiping is no big deal to us Maybe it's a hellworthy trespass in your home, but in ours we encourage chats and healthy debates and discussions, and occasional gossip. No harm, no foul.
Nothing wrong with the bolded but if by gossip you mean the rehashing of others personal business or making fun of someone than let me set you straight..it is HARMFUL doesn't matter if it's 1852 or 2109 gossip serves no useful purpose
It's no wonder some kids are totally out of control today and when they hit the teen years the parents throw in the towel
We are friends. We go shopping together, we plan "girls day outings" together, we do each other's hair and nails, we gossip about her school and stuff; (she has days like that with her Dad too, and they are both glowing and happy at the end of the day, lol!) yet she knows that I am the parent at the end of the day, no matter what. She knows that our (my DH and I) word is law, and she does what she is supposed to do.
She knows we will go to bat for her ANY time (and have twice so far for serious stuff.), but at the same time, she knows we will not hesitate to discipline her in a heartbeat.
I think we actually have a BETTER parental/child relationship due to the fact I treat her like a human, and not a servant/slave/overlord like some parents do.
To each their own I guess, but I do feel like I had to say something about your statement of friend above.
Being a parent does not mean you treat your child like a servant/slave/overlord..being a parent means you PARENT..you guide your children, praise them when deserved and discipline when needed, you know who & what their friends are and what they are doing....at all times....you say NO and have to hear them say what a pain you are or worse yet the I hate you...but when they grow up and say thanks Mom thanks Dad..I wouldn't be where I am if not for you it's all worth it
It's so much easier to be the friend versus the parent..a parent is on duty 24/7 from the time the child is in a cradle until they reach responsible adulthood and it doesn't completely end there either
It's 2009, not 1952; gossiping is no big deal to us. Maybe it's a hellworthy trespass in your home, but in ours we encourage chats and healthy debates and discussions, and occasional gossip. No harm, no foul.
Surely you would feel differently if people were gossiping about your DD...no?? Newsflash, gossip is RUDE and inappropriate regardless of the year, you can get reprimanded/fired at your workplace for gossiping about coworkers (not your workplace necessarily but it is common)...surely you don't have to stoop that low to maintain the friendship with your daughter. I have higher standards for my friends and certainly higher standards for my kids!! And if you find my post offensive you shouldn't, it's better than gossiping behind your back and you don't mind that so this is no big deal.
Surely you would feel differently if people were gossiping about your DD...no?? Newsflash, gossip is RUDE and inappropriate regardless of the year, you can get reprimanded/fired at your workplace for gossiping about coworkers (not your workplace necessarily but it is common)...surely you don't have to stoop that low to maintain the friendship with your daughter. I have higher standards for my friends and certainly higher standards for my kids!! And if you find my post offensive you shouldn't, it's better than gossiping behind your back and you don't mind that so this is no big deal.
Apparently you guys are too uptight to understand, no worries.
I am sure they DO gossip about her, but do I care that some parent doesn't like the clothes she wears or the things she likes, NOPE. I can't stop it, I can't change it, no worries.
I see your point NCYank, but if you understood the type of gossip, you wouldn't be as upset. We gossip about her classes, about how her teacher wore this, or so and so wore that, or how her friend is sick, etc... Hardly anything serious like some of you guys are assuming.
And thanks for being polite, and not calling me names or anything like some have.
Apparently you guys are too uptight to understand, no worries.
I am sure they DO gossip about her, but do I care that some parent doesn't like the clothes she wears or the things she likes, NOPE. I can't stop it, I can't change it, no worries.
I see your point NCYank, but if you understood the type of gossip, you wouldn't be as upset. We gossip about her classes, about how her teacher wore this, or so and so wore that, or how her friend is sick, etc... Hardly anything serious like some of you guys are assuming.
And thanks for being polite, and not calling me names or anything like some have.
Well that is different..as long as you don't allow her to make fun of how someone dresses....chatting over the days events is a bit different than gossip....gossip is harmful & hurtful
Apparently you guys are too uptight to understand, no worries.
I am sure they DO gossip about her, but do I care that some parent doesn't like the clothes she wears or the things she likes, NOPE. I can't stop it, I can't change it, no worries.
I see your point NCYank, but if you understood the type of gossip, you wouldn't be as upset. We gossip about her classes, about how her teacher wore this, or so and so wore that, or how her friend is sick, etc... Hardly anything serious like some of you guys are assuming.
And thanks for being polite, and not calling me names or anything like some have.
No, I'm not uptight but when you said gossip....
1. idle talk or rumor, esp. about the personal or private affairs of others, Rumor or talk of a personal, sensational, or intimate nature.
I assumed you knew the definition of the word was not chit chat about how her friend was sick or the teacher wore a pink dress....
My mistake for assuming.
Parents when their young...but you become more of a friend as they get older...depending on their maturity, highschool and college age...
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