Advice for son that still talks too much during school

[MomOfMiddleSchooler]

My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD in the second grade, she's getting ready to graduate from the 5th grade and head to middle school. She still gets into trouble for talking. She on medication to help her focus doing school hours but sometimes she goes through phases, like this week, where she comes home with a demerit for talking too much. It's frustrating and we've tried anything. I'm open to suggestions from other parents that have this problem. She blames everything and doesn't take responsibility when she gets into trouble. She always start with, "the teacher said that I". I make her restart with "I did...." There are consequences like losing dessert, etc. but I'm concerned about how this will effect her in middle school. *sigh*

[Billy_J]

There are times we all need to "zip it". Like in court, at a wedding, a funeral, etc.

And it is common courtesy to let a person talking, finish what they are saying, and not interrupt them. Or if two people are talking, don't interrupt them.

But then you have kids who can't control themselves and keep quiet. I wouldn't expect instant quietness from a kid, not going to happen! But you can work on this persistently over a long time (years).

Each time they interrupt, say "We are talking, please don't interrupt!" And when finished, say "Now what did you want to say? We are finished talking." (Do that about 1000 times and they will gradually "get it".)

Or maybe have a contest to see how long a kid (or two kids) can be quiet and say nothing. Give some sort of reward if they can last so many minutes. Start out with 2 minutes or something reasonable.

Other than that, just point out to them times when they can talk and times they should be quiet for one reason or another. Keep reminding them... again, and again, and again.

Think of that librarian in school libraries, Shhhhhhhh! (Along with a stern look.)