A's and D's

[skahar]

My DD had trouble in middle school with her grades, like this boy, it stemmed from not turning homework in. In my mind that is absolutely unacceptable. School is my kids "job" and if they are not doing well due to laziness then they do not get any perks at home, no TV, computer time, phone or video games, until the mid marking period progress report comes out and it shows all assignments turned in. I resorted to this consequence for her when talking didn't work and short term consequences didn't work. Some may say that is a bit extreme but for her it was the only thing that motivated her enough to keep her going.

Now that she is in highschool she is carrying a 3.6 GPA and taking all AP courses along with tech for nursing. She plans on becoming a neurologist and knows that only she can get herself there. I can't stand over her and make sure she completes all assignments or studies for tests nor should I have to, that IMO is making sure they will never do anything more than they need to unless someone is right on their behind pushing.

[drjones96]

Originally Posted by momtothree

16 year old sophomore brings home a progress report card.

A's in PE and Horticulture (electives
D's in English, Biology and Computers.

He is mad that we are not "praising" him for the 2 A's and only looking at the D's. (which to his credit he brought up 2 of them to C's this week but who knows for how long)

Are we mean for not praising him for the A's?

Wow! An 'A' in PE? Take that kid out for a happy meal! 'A' in horticulture? Take him to Chuck E Cheese instead....it's celebration time!

No you are not mean. If my kids brought home a D in anything I'd be on them like white on rice.

Of course there are warning signs leading up to this. It should be obvious to you as a parent if your child never, brings home books, studies, has homework, etc. I mean....it takes a whole lot of doing nothing to produce a 'D' or 'F' at the high school level. Does your school have an online system where you can see test scores, assignment scores, etc?

Our daughter had a friend from her last school who absolutely never did homework, turned in assignments, failed tests, etc. And the crazy thing was her mom thought it was just fine because she was involved in activities and such and she was staying out of trouble. All the while used to tell us that she was thinking of sending her kids to medical school one day. Needless to say she had a distorted view of reality. Those kids aren't going to do much beyond a counter job at Burger King.