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In the morning, the mom carries her to the couch and dresses her and then feeds her cereal. Carries her to the bathroom for brush her teeth. Carries her back to the couch and combs her hair. My tongue is bleeding from holding it. I work there as a care giver for a 15 year old autistic boy, who is blind and confined to a wheel chair so I watch this every morning. Oh she sleeps with parents or older sister who is 16.
I so want to say something like stand up or walk or something, it is very frustrating.
Does the girl go to school? I wonder how she manages there, I would think she'd want to be like her peers, eat lunch (feeding herself) and do normal typical 8 yr old kid things. Is she physically able to walk? At 8, I can't imagine the parents not encouraging her to be independent unless something else is going on that's not apparent, ie if she's been coddled since day 1, it's not really her fault but her parents'.
There has got to be more to this. Is she in a regular school?
If she is physically and mentally capable of doing these things herself and the parents were doing this, I would probably have a stroke if I kept my mouth shut!!! LOL!!
i know you may want to say something, but i wouldn't. no it's not normal, but let her parents deal with it. they are --for lack of a better word--crippling her by not letting her grow and learn and do things for herself. they are the ones who will need to deal with it. as long as they make you do any of the carrying and feeding etc.
Thinking about this story reminded me that I had a cousin who was much the same. She came to my aunt and uncle late in life and they treated her like she was a doll. She had a room full of toys none of us were allowed to touch (they lived in a different state and we visited every year or two). She wasn't allowed to play with the rest of us and none of us liked her much.
She ended up getting pregnant as a teen and married a creep. She had no idea how to take care of herself. I haven't heard anything about her for years.
I don't think you can really say anything because you are employed by them, through them, for them--whatever. I'm guessing it may have to do with their son's disabilities. Either they wanted to baby her because they were so happy she didn't have autism, or they just got use to a certain way of parenting after having their son, or the daughter has/had issues with how much attention her brother gets and the parents found it easier to baby her and it became a bad habit they don't notice, or maybe they feel bad about not being to give this (once)baby as much attention as their previous two. Or maybe they are wacko. Unfortunately, I think this is an issue for family or friends to bring up to them, not you. Unless they introduce the topic, that is.
The not-dressing-herself part is kind of creepy to me. My son got modest about us seeing him naked when he was 5 or 6 yrs old. Does she bathe herself? (Yuck!)
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