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Which would you have a more difficult time dealing with? A lesbian daughter or a gay son and why? I'm a lesbian and want to tell my parents that I like girls but I'm afraid of how they'll react.
I don't have a problem with either, but I would be concerned if my children told me they were gay, particularly if I had a son who told me he was gay. I would be concerned for his safety. Not all regions of the country are equally open-minded.
But to answer your real question, it depends on 1) how tolerant you think your parents are of homosexuality to start, and 2) where they stand on gender roles. Meaning, are they more traditional, in which case they might have a harder time with a gay son than lesbian daughter. I'm just guessing though.
it doesnt matter which is worse. i dont think either would be easy for any parent, although i am sure that we love our children no matter what.
if you feel the need to tell your parents, then do it. i wont be surprised if they suspect it already. people are more open and realize things better now.
i wish you luck and understanding for all of you.
We're born how we're born. Would you ask which is worse- being blue-eyed or left-handed? Of course not, so just be who you are and give your parents some credit. As the previous poster said, they probably already know, or suspect.
Hang in there. Think of how relieved you will be once the initial conversation is over. Let us know how it went. I'm pulling for you.
There is no worse; it's not bad at all, in my opinion. You are what you are and that's just great. My kids are still very young, but I know I will love them no matter what. They might even grow up to be Republicans (gulp) and hyper religious (gulp), but I'll still love them. I don't know your parents and their world view and I realize this can be an incredibly difficult thing to do, but you won't lose their love. Why are you afraid of their reaction? Have they actually made comments that lead you to believe their reaction won't be positive? I wish I could give you advice, but I haven't been through it. I hope it goes well, and, as others said, they may know and are waiting for you to take the lead.
Alexiana, they already know. I'm a parent, my kids are't gay or lez, but my son had a friend.......well, it was obvious. I still like the kid, nothing wrong w/it.
Your parents love you, no matter what you do.........unless you are a democrate(fjtee)...then your on your own.
"Parents don't just love their children every now and then, it's a love w/out end.......amen." (good song)
As a father of 4 sons, I would say a child who is addicted to drugs or was a criminal would be worse. A son or daughter admitting they were gay would solicit an okay and assurances that we would support his/her decision in coming out. In other words, you could tell them a lot of worse things about you.
In any case, you know your parents best. How supportive have they been in the past? Gay situations come up all the time on TV and other media. How did they react? If you don't think it will go well, is there another family member or family friend you can talk to about it? Also, your parents may know more about you than what you think.
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. Let us know how it went. I'm pulling for you.
fjtee)...then your on your own.
