People wanted to see some math, so let me try some out. Let's use a slightly modified version of the Drake equation to make a point. The Drake equation is specifically looking for the frequency of extant intelligent life in our galaxy alone, but that's not the debate here. We're looking for the frequency of any life in the known universe.
nS = The number of stars capable of supporting life.
fP = The fraction of those stars with planetary systems.
nE = The number of planets, per solar system, with an environment suitable for life.
fL = The fraction of suitable planets on which life actually appears.
N = The number of planets in The Milky Way Galaxy that formed life.
nS; We'll have to assume the known universe contains the approximated 100,000,000,000 galaxies. It could be much more or it could be less because we see much of the universe as it was millions or even billions of years ago. But this is a good starting number and we'll be quantifying our Milky Way galaxy first as it's relatively close and more likely to be a fairly accurate representation.
Obviously, some stars are too short lived to produce life. Those stars we can pretty much instantly discount and are among the rarest of types. Our star is a main-sequence star and is a fairly common type. A low estimate of the number of stars in our galaxy is 200,000,000,000 (2 hundred billion) Let's say just one in 100 of those stars is a star like our own, even though our star is thought of as "common".
nS = 1/100 or 2,000,000,000 stars(2 billion)
fP; Even though we're finding planets in abundance around other stars (even stars that are not main-sequence), we'll say main-sequence stars form planets at a rate of one in ten (this number is probably much higher).
fP = 1/10 or 200,000,000 planetary solar systems (2 hundred million)
nE; We know that 2 planets and one moon in our solar system have conditions which either do support life, did support life or could still support life. Drake I believe thought this number might be as much as one per system, I however think it's probably much lower than that. So, we'll really drop the numbers here and be very conservative and NOT calculate that every system has capable planets. Let's say just one in a thousand solar systems produce such a planet.
nE = 1/1000 or 200,000 planets capable of supporting life
FL; Obviously supporting life and forming life are different propositions. If all life forms from some type of non-life to life process, than this number might be pretty small. There are theories of Transpermia, where life hitches rides on objects like comets and asteroids. If this is true, abiogenesis may not be all that necessary and planets with life might be much more common. However, we'll assume Transpermia doesn't happen and make this number low as well. Let's say just one in a thousand planets will have abiogenesis.
fL = 1/1000 or 200 planets where life formed by abiogenesis.
•N = 200 planets where life formed in the Milky Way galaxy alone. This number is probably exceedingly conservative.
Now we're not just talking about just our galaxy, we're talking about the entire known universe. Most estimates place the number of galaxies in the known universe at between 100,000,000,000 (one hundred billion) and 200,000,000,000 (2 hundred billion). Let's go with the low end number of one hundred billion. Now let's say the same thing applies to galaxies as stars (even though I don't believe this is completely the case) Let's say only one in ten galaxies have appropriate conditions to produce the correct star. So 100 billion divided by 10 leaves us with 10 billion galaxies. We can now multiply 10 billion by the number estimated in our galaxy and we come up with a number for the known universe. 200 times 10 billion
•N for universe = 2,000,000,000,000 or 2 trillion planets where life formed or is forming.
Stars go extinct as well as other events that are not conducive for life as we know it. Even so, the formation process is probably ongoing, so the extinction factor should not cause an over-all drop in numbers.
I took some great liberties with the Drake equation, but I think my numbers are still somewhat accurate if highly conservative.
Edit: had a problem with the math. Stupid windows calculator with no commas.
There still may be some errors, but this makes a point nonetheless.