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I was watching the news the other night and saw footage of the gay pride parade in New York, following the decision of the state to legalize gay marriage.
I was struck by the dress and "costumes" of many of the participants. Men were dressed like women and women were dressed like men. Gay couples were dressed in traditional bride's and groom's clothing, mimicking the role of a male and female in marriage. Then there was the componant of men dressed in women's lingerie and leather apparel.
For any gays here, I am a little confused. I would offer that if I dressed in women's lingerie or black leather S&M clothing and paraded around the streets of our city, or in our neighborhood, I might be viewed as a deviant and a pariah. I can guarantee you that such behavior would be met with scorn and derision (as it should be).
I guess I am asking- how can the gay community demand "acceptance" by the heterosexual community and presume that the gay community is no different than the rest of the society with regard to social and ethical norms? I suppose that if one is trying to promote the image of deviance, dressing in women's clothing (if a male) and parading around in lingerie and leather might be just the ticket. However, if one is seeking incorporation into the general community and universal acceptance, perhaps this is not the best method.
Nobody is demanding acceptance, they're demanding equal rights. It is their right to dress as they please and how you feel personally has no bearing on it. I think being a republican is deviant, should being a republican not be accepted?
I was watching the news the other night and saw footage of the gay pride parade in New York, following the decision of the state to legalize gay marriage.
I was struck by the dress and "costumes" of many of the participants. Men were dressed like women and women were dressed like men. Gay couples were dressed in traditional bride's and groom's clothing, mimicking the role of a male and female in marriage. Then there was the componant of men dressed in women's lingerie and leather apparel.
For any gays here, I am a little confused. I would offer that if I dressed in women's lingerie or black leather S&M clothing and paraded around the streets of our city, or in our neighborhood, I might be viewed as a deviant and a pariah. I can guarantee you that such behavior would be met with scorn and derision (as it should be).
I guess I am asking- how can the gay community demand "acceptance" by the heterosexual community and presume that the gay community is no different than the rest of the society with regard to social and ethical norms? I suppose that if one is trying to promote the image of deviance, dressing in women's clothing (if a male) and parading around in lingerie and leather might be just the ticket. However, if one is seeking incorporation into the general community and universal acceptance, perhaps this is not the best method.
While Pride parades can get a bit over the top, and I don't necessarily agree with everything they do at them, not all of the people at them are like that. Drag is fairly common, but then, aside from forced societal views on what a man or woman should wear, who cares if a man wears a dress and heals? Women wear pants and suits and no one bats an eye.
However, I would also ask you to look at Mardi Gras. Should we all criticize heterosexuals for digusting behavior like guys trying to win beads from women, and the women flashing their boobs at the men from the rooftops and balconies? Lots of heterosexuals dress up like freaks at Mardi Gras.
Honestly, the kind of behavior you see from heterosexuals (especially men) at bars, mardi gras, frat houses, etc. makes gay pride parades look rather tame.
While Pride parades can get a bit over the top, and I don't necessarily agree with everything they do at them, not all of the people at them are like that. Drag is fairly common, but then, aside from forced societal views on what a man or woman should wear, who cares if a man wears a dress and heals? Women wear pants and suits and no one bats an eye.
However, I would also ask you to look at Mardi Gras. Should we all criticize heterosexuals for digusting behavior like guys trying to win beads from women, and the women flashing their boobs at the men from the rooftops and balconies? Lots of heterosexuals dress up like freaks at Mardi Gras.
Honestly, the kind of behavior you see from heterosexuals (especially men) at bars, mardi gras, frat houses, etc. makes gay pride parades look rather tame.
Sure- that is okay by me. However, do not demand equal treatment in professional activities or buisness, as there is a level of conduct that must be maintained inside and outside of the workplace. If one wants to parade around as a deviant- that is fine. These activities will be deemed unacceptable by a majority of the population and preclude involvement in the norms of society.
Suppose you go to your primary care doc to discuss some matters, which can be personal, having just witnessed him parading around in the city streets in a bra, panties, garter belts, and heels. Now how do you suppose you would feel in the "care" of a person who just expressed behavior that would be considered a manifestation of mental instability? Suppose this person was your child's teacher? How about your US senator? Would you like such a person manning the switch for nuclear launch sites?
Deviant behavior will garner the label of "deviant" by the general population and is simply an antagonistic effort to demand "acceptance" while at the same time making that request impossible.
Sure- that is okay by me. However, do not demand equal treatment in professional activities or buisness, as there is a level of conduct that must be maintained inside and outside of the workplace. If one wants to parade around as a deviant- that is fine. These activities will be deemed unacceptable by a majority of the population and preclude involvement in the norms of society.
Suppose you go to your primary care doc to discuss some matters, which can be personal, having just witnessed him parading around in the city streets in a bra, panties, garter belts, and heels. Now how do you suppose you would feel in the "care" of a person who just expressed behavior that would be considered a manifestation of mental instability? Suppose this person was your child's teacher? How about your US senator? Would you like such a person manning the switch for nuclear launch sites?
Deviant behavior will garner the label of "deviant" by the general population and is simply an antagonistic effort to demand "acceptance" while at the same time making that request impossible.
You're free to choose another Doc. Straight folk parade around cheating on their spouses, tweet pics of their junk to random people, play airport footsie, sneak away to appalachain trail etc. Which is worst exactly? Isn't all that behavior deviant? Or is it? Isn't deviance an individual prospective? Let me ask you this, if the worlds best male Dr. wore a dress on Saturday nights but could cure your cancer, would you leave him? I don't get your premise. It's as if you want gay people specifically to act as you would in every aspect of life. That's not freedom and because you consider something deviant doesn't make it deviant.
If they don't dress that way to work or to job interviews then there isn't a problem. Get it?
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Originally Posted by hawkeye2009
I was watching the news the other night and saw footage of the gay pride parade in New York, following the decision of the state to legalize gay marriage.
I was struck by the dress and "costumes" of many of the participants. Men were dressed like women and women were dressed like men. Gay couples were dressed in traditional bride's and groom's clothing, mimicking the role of a male and female in marriage. Then there was the componant of men dressed in women's lingerie and leather apparel.
For any gays here, I am a little confused. I would offer that if I dressed in women's lingerie or black leather S&M clothing and paraded around the streets of our city, or in our neighborhood, I might be viewed as a deviant and a pariah. I can guarantee you that such behavior would be met with scorn and derision (as it should be).
I guess I am asking- how can the gay community demand "acceptance" by the heterosexual community and presume that the gay community is no different than the rest of the society with regard to social and ethical norms? I suppose that if one is trying to promote the image of deviance, dressing in women's clothing (if a male) and parading around in lingerie and leather might be just the ticket. However, if one is seeking incorporation into the general community and universal acceptance, perhaps this is not the best method.
Honestly, the kind of behavior you see from heterosexuals (especially men) at bars, mardi gras, frat houses, etc. makes gay pride parades look rather tame.
Nobody is demanding acceptance, they're demanding equal rights. It is their right to dress as they please and how you feel personally has no bearing on it. I think being a republican is deviant, should being a republican not be accepted?
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