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People in this country don't realize how bad our justice system can be towards it's citizens. Once you get caught up in it, look out!. I feel sorry for this guy, but he is not the first one to get slammed like this or the last.
As someone who would never touch a divorced dad, the baggage is unbearable for a childless person. The childless person might end up supporting the kids or the ex or be denied something they want because of helping the parent. They may be dragged into various drama like the mother taking the dad to court or the mom stalking the dad because she wants him back. Then there is the issue of time where dating takes a back seat to the child and plans often need to be changed. For me there's the added issue of being Catholic and not open to dating someone unable to marry in church.
Ah. Ok then. Well, We are older and both are divorced. She has two kids of her own as well. Both grown. Mine is almost grown. There's no inconvenience there. I gather you must be a lot younger, possibly still in your 20s, so that could cause children to be an issue. Everybodys situation is not the same. Ours is fine. Mostly, this is our time. I do things with my son, certain sports we participate in, which are always planned far in advance, and she comes out to watch, its relaxing for us all. When her kids, who live out of state, come to visit, I just give her the space, it all works out.
But, if we both had young kids, it would be a nightmare. I'm not looking to date women with young children either. I am to old to be in the middle of an ex husbands thing, and I am not raising any more kids. Guess that cuts both ways.
Ah. Ok then. Well, We are older and both are divorced. She has two kids of her own as well. Both grown. Mine is almost grown. There's no inconvenience there. I gather you must be a lot younger, possibly still in your 20s, so that could cause children to be an issue. Everybodys situation is not the same. Ours is fine. Mostly, this is our time. I do things with my son, certain sports we participate in, which are always planned far in advance, and she comes out to watch, its relaxing for us all. When her kids, who live out of state, come to visit, I just give her the space, it all works out.
But, if we both had young kids, it would be a nightmare. I'm not looking to date women with young children either. I am to old to be in the middle of an ex husbands thing, and I am not raising any more kids. Guess that cuts both ways.
I'm 42 but in my area come across men my age still with young kids. Many people here marry later than usual because of careers, etc. It does make a difference if both people have kids versus those who have kids. Age also makes a difference (though I wouldn't touch a man either with grown kids though less drama). My issue has never been the kids but the parents.
It's just messed up no two ways about it. There is NO way I am ever going to give up a penny of my salary to someone else's kids or spouse. Many people don't know this but there are often step parents who are then forced to pay child support for their step kids. Then people wonder why childless people avoid parents.
Exactly. If someone has no kids, he/she should stay far away from people with kids.
Christ, and I thought it was bad here in Massachusetts. When I was young my mother took my brother and me to court to watch some trials, some were divorce proceedings and I vowed then to never get married and never did. No wonder the divorce rate is so high. The only one who has any reason to stay married is the guy while the woman has a big incentive to get divorced and get everything
You have to be more specific than that. Making a blanket statement with no example and nothing to back it up, tells absolutely nothing.
Well that's cool. However, I am a bit confused with your comments about divorced Dads and kids. Why is a divorced Dad who has children such an undesirable kinda guy? I'm divorced, I have a son. He isn't "baggage". He is my son, and I love him more than life, how is that trouble?
My lil' lady doesn't see my son as baggage. Not at all. She has watched him grow up, and he really likes her, and she enjoys him as well. They are good friends. He is almost 18 now, and a young man, so It's not like Im swapping diapers. My son does not hinder my gal and I's relationship, in any way. In point of fact, he compliments it. He and my lady are my world. I love them both, so much it hurts sometimes. Is that "baggage" as well?
Honestly, I am genuinely confused, how you see children as baggage, and trouble in a relationship, between a divorced Dad and a new love. Maybe, Im an exception, in your experiences, IDK. No matter. It's all good in our world. Plenty of love to go the around.
She's a saint. I wouldn't want someone with a kid. To have to accept someone else's kid? To have to work to support a kid that isn't mine? Not me. I'm not that type. That's for other people.
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