Lawyer Sent To Jail For Not Paying 100% Of His Annual Income For Child Support And Alimony (Massachusetts, versus)
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Says the psycho hater who was kicked to the curb by her X for a more agreeable women
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Originally Posted by Saritaschihuahua
No. Nice for many people. Don't blame your dismal relationships on others. It's you that is the problem. Get your personal issues resolved and you'll see how well you get along with others, including women. Until you do that, you're likely to continue miserable, unhappy, and blaming the world for what only you are responsible.
Yup! Divorced men with kids are just bad news. When divorced men don't have kids, it's not so bad.
Depends on the situation because I've known messed up divorced men. Then again I've known messed up men of all marital status but yep divorced dads are the worst except for dads who never married the mother.
She is talking about guys who are forced under court order to give over 50% of their income to the ex in alimony and child support, then, if he gets married, his NEW wife's income is used to INCREASE his alimony and child support.
And people wonder why everyone just lives together, to the general detriment of society? Are our legislators stupid? The next time I see some asshat Congressman/woman blathering about the reasons for the demise of American society, I'm going to scream. Disincentives to marriage are #1.
It's just messed up no two ways about it. There is NO way I am ever going to give up a penny of my salary to someone else's kids or spouse. Many people don't know this but there are often step parents who are then forced to pay child support for their step kids. Then people wonder why childless people avoid parents.
Christ, and I thought it was bad here in Massachusetts. When I was young my mother took my brother and me to court to watch some trials, some were divorce proceedings and I vowed then to never get married and never did. No wonder the divorce rate is so high. The only one who has any reason to stay married is the guy while the woman has a big incentive to get divorced and get everything
Well that's cool. However, I am a bit confused with your comments about divorced Dads and kids. Why is a divorced Dad who has children such an undesirable kinda guy? I'm divorced, I have a son. He isn't "baggage". He is my son, and I love him more than life, how is that trouble?
My lil' lady doesn't see my son as baggage. Not at all. She has watched him grow up, and he really likes her, and she enjoys him as well. They are good friends. He is almost 18 now, and a young man, so It's not like Im swapping diapers. My son does not hinder my gal and I's relationship, in any way. In point of fact, he compliments it. He and my lady are my world. I love them both, so much it hurts sometimes. Is that "baggage" as well?
Honestly, I am genuinely confused, how you see children as baggage, and trouble in a relationship, between a divorced Dad and a new love. Maybe, Im an exception, in your experiences, IDK. No matter. It's all good in our world. Plenty of love to go the around.
Well that's cool. However, I am a bit confused with your comments about divorced Dads and kids. Why is a divorced Dad who has children such an undesirable kinda guy? I'm divorced, I have a son. He isn't "baggage". He is my son, and I love him more than life, how is that trouble?
My lil' lady doesn't see my son as baggage. Not at all. She has watched him grow up, and he really likes her, and she enjoys him as well. They are good friends. He is almost 18 now, and a young man, so It's not like Im swapping diapers. My son does not hinder my gal and I's relationship, in any way. In point of fact, he compliments it. He and my lady are my world. I love them both, so much it hurts sometimes. Is that "baggage" as well?
Honestly, I am genuinely confused, how you see children as baggage, and trouble in a relationship, between a divorced Dad and a new love. Maybe, Im an exception, in your experiences, IDK. No matter. It's all good in our world. Plenty of love to go the around.
As someone who would never touch a divorced dad, the baggage is unbearable for a childless person. The childless person might end up supporting the kids or the ex or be denied something they want because of helping the parent. They may be dragged into various drama like the mother taking the dad to court or the mom stalking the dad because she wants him back. Then there is the issue of time where dating takes a back seat to the child and plans often need to be changed. For me there's the added issue of being Catholic and not open to dating someone unable to marry in church.
What I don't see are facts and it's probably because it's not our business to know them. What I do know is that alimony is an equalizer, so if he was ordered to pay it's a good bet his wife, whatever her occupation, was NOT making nearly as much as him. Child support should share the cost of raising the child. I have to question this entire situation since I can't even tell if this dude had legal representation of was just shooting from the hip and missed.
I also know when people get married they make joint decisions about who will be doing what in the relationship, this includes deciding to have one or two incomes. This doesn't happen in a vacuum unless both parties are idiots (and I don't suffer idiots) so to come to the end of a marriage and claim you had no idea...well that's not going to work. Many people prefer the one income household, or one MAJOR income household, leaving the other party to raise kids, keep the home, deal with the details of life. I've seen it a lot when the main breadwinner travels a lot, it's difficult to have a strong marriage and spend time together if each are going their own way in life sometimes, so people have to face this and choose.
I DON'T like the idea of a woman or man leaving another for their own selfish reasons then expecting to be paid. I have no problem with a dude who leaves his long term SAHM/wife for someone else paying (full disclosure, that's my situation) or vise verse if it's the woman breadwinner leaving her husband. But no fault divorce takes the reasons out and while it's good for 90% of divorces where someone isn't psycho, there should be more oversight into the 10% that don't make sense. I don't have a solution but I know there is no ONE solution to ALL divorces.
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I have a guy with 0 baggage.
