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This may indeed be a controversial topic, but I have noticed something very apparent lately. When I'm out and about, in majority black and mixed communities, I rarely see black dads out and about with their children (i.e. at the mall, grocery store, sporting events, concerts, parks, etc). I usually always see black women alone with their children or with other women (perhaps a sister, friend, mother, aunt, niece etc).
On the other hand, whenever the children are present with a white, or Asian women, I often always see a guy around too, out and about with them.
Please do not take offense to this post. I am just writing from my own experience. Please let me know if you have noticed this as well. If not, next time you're out and about especially if you live in a mixed or predominately black area, do an informal count for yourself, and see if you don't notice this trend too.
I obviously did not perform a scientific study, but I think this is the real reason why there is so much crime in urban areas. Male children need discipline and female children need protection from male attention at young ages. Without a caring father present, a host of problems usually result, in the short and long term.
I'm sure you go out and visit majority black and mixed communities very often
I'm black and I've directly observed first hand what I wrote in my original post. I noticed that whenever I saw most black women with children, a man was usually not present.
I then did an informal comparison with white and Asian women and noticed that whenever I saw them out and about with their children, usually a guy was always there too.
This may indeed be a controversial topic, but I have noticed something very apparent lately. When I'm out and about, in majority black and mixed communities, I rarely see black dads out and about with their children (i.e. at the mall, grocery store, sporting events, concerts, parks, etc). I usually always see black women alone with their children or with other women (perhaps a sister, friend, mother, aunt, niece etc).
On the other hand, whenever the children are present with a white, or Asian women, I often always see a guy around too, out and about with them.
Please do not take offense to this post. I am just writing from my own experience. Please let me know if you have noticed this as well. If not, next time you're out and about especially if you live in a mixed or predominately black area, do an informal count for yourself, and see if you don't notice this trend too.
I obviously did not perform a scientific study, but I think this is the real reason why there is so much crime in urban areas. Male children need discipline and female children need protection from male attention at young ages. Without a caring father present, a host of problems usually result, in the short and long term.
So you are saying the men in black couples and mixed couples are not as controlling as the men in white couples. If a white woman goes out with her children the man has to go with her, because she either isnt allowed or cant be trusted to go out with the kids without the father. But in black and mixed couples the woman is able to go out by herself? very interesting
I live in an area of Boston that is about 60% black and you are correct in your observations. One thing I would add to my experience is that, on work days, there are a lot of black women doing errands with their children while you never see white women out doing the same.
They seem to have a lot of time to raise their children. It's almost like it was for me when I was a kid in the 70's. I had a stay at home mom.
So you are saying the men in black couples and mixed couples are not as controlling as the men in white couples. If a white woman goes out with her children the man has to go with her, because she either isnt allowed or cant be trusted to go out with the kids without the father. But in black and mixed couples the woman is able to go out by herself? very interesting
No, I am pointing out that other races of men appear to be more involved and have a presence in their children's lives. Children require a lot of work. I often see black women carry bags, packages and the baby stroller, while other races of women have help.
It's very telling that you see it as controlling for a man to help out and interact with his own children.
I live in an area of Boston that is about 60% black and you are correct in your observations. One thing I would add to my experience is that, on work days, there are a lot of black women doing errands with their children while you never see white women out doing the same.
They seem to have a lot of time to raise their children. It's almost like it was for me when I was a kid in the 70's. I had a stay at home mom.
No, I don't think they have a lot of time to raise their children. If they are single moms, and they don't have any support from the father of their children and live in poverty, I think they are receiving some type of government assistance. But to my knowledge, most welfare programs require that the woman work as well, after a period of time.
No, I am pointing out that other races of men appear to be more involved with their children. Children require a lot of work. I often see black women carry bags, packages and the baby stroller, while other races of women have help.
It's very telling that you see it as controlling for a man to help out and interact with his own children.
Well, if you are going off of what you observe while out and about, you can not discern the reasoning of it. you are coming up with what you believe is the reason. There is no proof in this type of observation as to what the reasoning is. I was just doing the same thing you are doing, forming an opinion out of nowhere to substantiate what ever I want.
Just like one could decide that the reasoning is, the white women have husbands who wont work, so, the husbands are able to be there all the time and help out all the time, but the black women have husbands who do work, so therefore can not be there 24/7. We could come up with thousands of these, but by just observing people out and about we can not give factual reasoning behind it.
I hate to say this, but on the occasion that I see a black guy with his family/children I notice it right away, because it's so rare these days.
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