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Originally Posted by TheDragonslayer
I will second what you said. I did not choose to be gay either.
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Or me, or my husband, or any of my gay friends. Or any of my gay coworkers. Or 99.9% of people who are gay. The OP is focusing on the
tiny number of people who say they were gay and then "switched" for their own personal reasons out of the gay population of millions.
It's a silly point to be made, and obviously most everyone in here is calling him out on his statements - as well as a majority of society and science who naturally can agree you're born gay. I mean just ask a gay person who isn't one of the few who flew back into the closet and say they're straight now. Notice how most people who "decide they're not gay" anymore are also heavily involved in religion or have very religious people in their lives as their support blanket?
It's just offensive he's saying these things, given you can ask countless gay people about the hardships, violence and trauma they suffered growing up gay in a world where you weren't supposed to be gay. I HATED the fact I was gay from the time I first realized it around age 10 until I was maybe 21 years old. HATED it. Thought about suicide, decided I would just marry a woman anyone and live a life hiding in the closet just so I could be normal and so I could make people around me happy.
Then around age 21 I realized that you only get one shot at life, that in my head I was so freaked out about being gay, but I saw that there were a LOT of people out there who were ok with it. I decided that since I was never going to change the fact I was gay, I might as well just learn to live with it. Today I'm actually
happy I'm gay. I love my life, I LOVE my fiance (getting married June 6th after 5 years of being together), I love my friends, I love everything about my life.
Turns out I was so devestated at being gay and so terrified of letting anyone know that it took me years to realize that not everyone out there demonizes gays and tells them they're unnatural or makes them feel like they should be ashamed of themselves like Sorel36 is doing. Most people are fine with it, accepting that it's just life and don't care. My parents were more than happy for me even though I was an only child. They were happy that I was being myself. I even came out to my 90 year old grandmother a few months ago since I'm now getting married. I was nervous how she would take it, growing up on a rural farm in Iowa and being quite religious. She was extremely happy for me and that I found someone. She just looked up at my dad when he told her and said "Well I love Chris so much (my fiance), and just think,
he could have married a woman and we all hated her!! She could have been terrible".
I just brush off people like the OP. It's sad for scared people in the closet to hear things like that because they can start feeling like it's true. That they should be ashamed of who they are or somehow need to change. As you can't change, most of them just live a life of lies. Wasting their lives as well as those they are lying to in the form of sham marriages "just because it's what you're
supposed to do" according to those who make up their own rules for everyone else.
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