Would you be okay if your child came out as LGBT? (myth, school)

[whogo]

Originally Posted by glass_of_merlot

Lol....You would be happier if he left them for another women?

Just slightly.

[Jimrob1]

I'd have no issue.

[mash123]

It will be devastating. A real punch in the face from Mohammed Ali.

[middle-aged mom]

No issue on my part.

A similar poll was posted on the forum a few years back.

I was surprised by the number who said they would disown their child he/ she came out. I was surprised so many felt they " owned" their children to the point of " disowning" them.

[doc1]

I would still love my son and he would always be an active part of my life but my wife and I would be heartbroken.

[Ringo1]

Originally Posted by OnOurWayHome

Of course I would accept it.

But I would worry every day about people mistreating him because of his orientation.

Yes. A parent always wants their child to have a life where you don't have to worry about things like that.

Originally Posted by natalie469

I was sympathetic to you until your last line about keeping legs shut. Women are always to blame I don't think so. How about men keeping it in their pants.

I know several gay men that expect acceptance of their lifestyle, and receive it, but still feel free to pass on wisdoms like you just mentioned. It drives me INSANE.

Originally Posted by No_Recess

Do what you want as long as you don't initiate force on others.

I try to put my energy into not screwing up my own life. And I need all the energy I can get.

Parents put a great deal of energy trying to make sure their kids don't screw up their own life. (Which we can't really do; but we try anyway).

That said, my kid is my kid is my kid. A lifetime of loving him wouldn't be so easily undone.

Originally Posted by Rakin

We were involved with Dallas Pflag for many years. Most conservatives are very accepting of their gay children. It is the uneducated Dem/Repub who sometimes struggles.

Progressives mostly use the gay / Trans issue as a political ploy to get the vote.

And when did Gender Bathrooms become an issue? Does anyone really want a old fat Tranny using the girls room with your Granddaughter ?

I think bathrooms became an issue when Republicans started passing laws about it. Until then, it was and is pretty much a non-issue that no one really thought much about.

Sounds like a vote getting tactic, eh?

[glass_of_merlot]

Originally Posted by Ringo1

I think bathrooms became an issue when Republicans started passing laws about it. Until then, it was and is pretty much a non-issue that no one really thought much about.

Sounds like a vote getting tactic, eh?

I think it was when a transsexual voiced their opinion and wanted to walk in to the girl bathroom and made a big deal about it...before then people just went were they thought they belonged and nobody really cared.

[dsjj251]

Originally Posted by DeclanMadden

That being said, most gay people are born that way. Most. Then there are those that go that way due to early childhood molestation, and then there are those that just "experiment". Experimentation is becoming ridiculously popular with kids these days, mostly due to all the mind-bending media coverage of the issue.

So I'd have to know the story. I'd look her right in the eye and say "Ok, tell me the story." I would get at the truth. If I can determine she was born that way, of course I would accept her as she is, she's my child.

If I determine molestation was involved? I've got some hunting to do.

If it's experimentation, then on with the show. Much like some parents have done to kids they've caught smoking, where they make them chain smoke a whole pack right in front of them, I would ensure she moves out of that phase as quickly as she went into it. How? Overt acceptance and encouragement to the point where it becomes discouraging.

There's your answer. Sorry, it doesn't fit the poll.

Im not an absolutist, so im sure there is someone out there that is gay just because they can be, but I doubt it.

Also, who you have sex with doesnt determine sexuality, attraction =/= sexual partner. An opening is an opening, its just that simple. So what you define as experimentation is about sexual gratification, not attraction.


Also,you do view homosexuality negatively as you put it in the same category as drugs.

[fibonacci]

Yes, they're my child.

[dsjj251]

Originally Posted by glass_of_merlot

I think it was when a transsexual voiced their opinion and wanted to walk in to the girl bathroom and made a big deal about it...before then people just went were they thought they belonged and nobody really cared.

Trans =/= gay



But if this is deemed on topic, I think most of those voices were raised because those Transpeople who had lived their lives normally up until this point where then told by some state and local governments that they could no longer use the bathroom of their appearance.


there is one case from 2008( I only remember because it was an election year and people thought It would be asked about during the Democratic Debates) where a fully trans man(female to male) was changing in the gym and was kicked out when someone in the locker room saw that he had a vagina.