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Old 03-01-2009, 04:35 PM
 
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Being gay is not an "action" either....unless you think gay couples are having sex 24/7.

Is being heterosexual an "action"?
..hhmm.. maybe he's speaking from personal experience.. feelings that he's not acting on, lol!
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Old 03-01-2009, 05:04 PM
 
Location: Texas
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..hhmm.. maybe he's speaking from personal experience.. feelings that he's not acting on, lol!
No I'm not.

I made VERY clear in my post that being gay is NOT an action. The actual sex is the action.
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Old 03-02-2009, 01:25 AM
 
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..hhmm.. maybe he's speaking from personal experience.. feelings that he's not acting on, lol!
There seems to be a bit of that going on in the Religion and Philosophy and Christian forums.

Maybe that is why some religious people think homosexuality is a choice. Some have admited to having homosexual attractions as well as heterosexual attractions. They say things like "they choose not to be homosexual" or they are "ex=gay"- basically because they are bi-sexual and just choose to follow their heterosexual attractions.

They are not really homosexual if they also experience attractions towards the opposite sex.

And as they feel they can can choose which gender they want to have relationships or sex with, (because they are attracted to both), they think everyone is like that.


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No I'm not.

I made VERY clear in my post that being gay is NOT an action. The actual sex is the action.

So being in love with someone of the same sex is okay but gay people shouldn't be having sex because it's...what? Wrong? Is that what you are saying?

So what exactly would you have gay people do?

Are you saying gay people should just never have relationships or sex?

Should they be celibate their whole lives?

Or should they try to pretend they are straight, marry someone of the opposite sex, and stuff up their spouses' lives as well as their own and their childrens' by living a lie?

How do you think most married heterosexual couples would feel if you said they should never have sex unless they are trying to procreate?
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Old 03-02-2009, 10:02 AM
 
Location: THE USA
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YOU HAVE IT NOW - - - the SOCIALIST BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE IS WHAT THE HOMOSEXUALS WANT. They cannot use the common law benefits of the marriage contract.
WRONG WRONG WRONG. Common Law/ Domestic Partnerships DO NOT OFFER the same RIGHTS as MARRIAGE does.

Do you even know what you are talking about? Have you even looked up Domestic Partnership to see WHAT that offers? Obviously NOT or you would see they are not offerring the SAME BENEFITS. They Cannot file a tax return together etc...



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Under the common law, a marriage meant the automatic transfer of property to surviving spouse and children was not subject to estate nor death taxes.
California DOES NOT HAVE COMMON LAW MARRIAGES.
AGAIN Civil Unions vs. Gay Marriage

What is a Civil Union? Civil Unions exist in only a handful of places: Vermont, New Jersey and Connecticut. California and Oregon have domestic partnership laws that offer many of the same rights as civil unions.
Vermont civil unions were created in 2000 to provide legal protections to gays and lesbians in relationships in that state because gay marriage is not an option. The protections do not extend beyond the border of Vermont and no federal protections are included with a Civil Union. Civil Unions offer some of the same rights and responsibilities as marriage, but only on a state level.

What about Domestic partnership? Some states and municipalities have domestic partnership registries, but no domestic partnership law is the same. Some, like the recently passed California domestic partnership law comes with many rights and responsibilities. Others, like the one in Washingtonoffer very few benefits to the couple.

What are some of the differences between Civil Unions and Gay Marriage?

Recognition in other states: Even though each state has its own laws around marriage, if someone is married in one state and moves to another, their marriage is legally recognized. For example, Oregon marriage law applies to people 17 and over. In Washington state, the couple must be 18 to wed. However, Washington will recognize the marriage of two 17 year olds from Oregon who move there. This is not the case with Civil Unions. If someone has a Civil Union in Vermont, that union is not recognized in any other state. As a matter of fact, two states, Connecticut and Georgia, have ruled that they do not have to recognize civil unions performed in Vermont, because their states have no such legal category. As gay marriages become legal in other states, this status may change.

Dissolving a Civil Union v. Divorce:
Vermont has no residency requirement for Civil Unions. That means two people from any other state or country can come there and have a civil union ceremony. If the couple breaks up and wishes to dissolve the union, one of them must be a resident of Vermont for one year before the Civil Union can be dissolved in family court. Married couples can divorce in any state they reside, no matter where they were married.

Immigration:
A United States citizen who is married can sponsor his or her non-American spouse for immigration into this country. Those with Civil Unions have no such privilege.

Taxes:
Civil Unions are not recognized by the federal government, so couples would not be able to file joint-tax returns or be eligible for tax breaks or protections the government affords to married couples.

Benefits:
The General Accounting Office in 1997 released a list of 1,049 benefits and protections available to heterosexual married couples. These benefits range from federal benefits, such as survivor benefits through Social Security, sick leave to care for ailing partner, tax breaks, veterans benefits and insurance breaks. They also include things like family discounts, obtaining family insurance through your employer, visiting your spouse in the hospital and making medical decisions if your partner is unable to. Civil Unions protect some of these rights, but not all of them.

But can’t a lawyer set all this up for gay and lesbian couples?
No. A lawyer can set up some things like durable power of attorney, wills and medical power of attorney. There are several problems with this, however.

1. It costs thousands of dollars in legal fees. A simple marriage license, which usually costs under $100 would cover all the same rights and benefits.

2. Any of these can be challenged in court. As a matter of fact, more wills are challenged than not. In the case of wills, legal spouses always have more legal power than any other family member.
3. Marriage laws are universal. If someone’s husband or wife is injured in an accident, all you need to do is show up and say you’re his or her spouse. You will not be questioned. If you show up at the hospital with your legal paperwork, the employees may not know what to do with you. If you simply say, "He's my husband," you will immediately be taken to your spouse's side.
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Old 03-02-2009, 10:28 AM
 
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Homosexuality is a choice/lifestyle..
Really, a lifestyle choice? You're attraction is a choice?
Gay people didn't CHOOSE to be gay. Because that implies that we ALL CAN CHOOSE TO BE GAY. That is no more likely than i chose to be Black, or i chose to be white.

If you have a thing for small waif like women- is that is a choice? Or you really get turned on by redheads, is that a choice? How about women with LONG hair vs SHORT hair? OR you are a boob man vs a butt man?

Or are you attracted to what you are attracted to and you DO NOT KNOW WHY? You are prewired to be attracted to whatever it is that turns you on. That is just the way you were MADE.

None of the above mentioned preferences are illegal or looked down on, so Why are people who are attracted to people of the same sex? Why is it ok to judge them?

There is nothing ILLEGAL going on there. 2 adults attracted to each other is not illegal.

SO give me one VALID, LOGICAL, NON RELIGIOUS reason why they shouldn't marry?

They may not be Christian/Catholic/Moromon, Presbytertian and who are you to force your religion onto others? You can't make us say Hail Mary's just because you do.


This discrimination is just wrong.
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Old 03-02-2009, 01:02 PM
 
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This discrimination is just wrong.
2nd that!
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Old 03-02-2009, 01:31 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I guess I'm wondering what will happen next if homosexuals are given the right to marry? In today's world everyone is given the freedom to do pretty much whatever they want, go wherever they want, have sex with anyone they want. I would never suggest that those freedoms be taken away...nor would I EVER suggest we go back to the time when certain people had their rights restricted.

However...if gay marriage is legalized...what group will be demanding increased freedom/rights next? There will ALWAYS be someone/some group demanding to be treated like everyone else. In many (most) cases, this is fine. But I can only imagine what gay marriage will open the door to.
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Old 03-02-2009, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Texas
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And if civil unions were expanded to include the rights Taboo2 was talking about, why wouldn't that be enough?
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Old 03-02-2009, 01:52 PM
 
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And if civil unions were expanded to include the rights Taboo2 was talking about, why wouldn't that be enough?
I think that would be enough, although they would still call their spouse, a spouse - a husband, a wife. They certainly wouldn't call each other my ' civil unioner' after all.
If it really comes down to the word 'marriage' ....well, I think that is a lost cause. They will be married, no matter what the courts call it.
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Old 03-02-2009, 02:36 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I think that would be enough, although they would still call their spouse, a spouse - a husband, a wife. They certainly wouldn't call each other my ' civil unioner' after all.
If it really comes down to the word 'marriage' ....well, I think that is a lost cause. They will be married, no matter what the courts call it.
I wonder if men would call their spouse their husband and if women would call their spouse their wife?
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