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Sorry it should say were you a MISTAKE not mistale LOL
My mom has told me that I was not a planned pregnancy and I guess that makes my creation a mistake. Do you think it is EVER appropriate to tell you child that they were not planned? Is it appropriate to tell them when they become and adult. All I know is it hasn't made me feel too good about myself.
My third child was also totally and completely unplanned but I have no intention of ever telling her this. I love her with all my heart regardless.
Anyone else in the same boat?
Last edited by KylieEve; 08-25-2010 at 07:27 AM..
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Most children arent planned. Dosent really make them a "mistake" or any less loved or wanted.
My parents NEVER used birth control so I think all of us were unplanned. My oldest sib was born about 2 yrs. after my parents married, my second sib. 10 yrs. later, me 3 yrs. later, and the last 7 yrs. later. My younger sib. was really I guess a "surprise". Mom was 40, and my oldest sib. was preg with her first at the same time. After my little bro was born mom made dad get a vasectomy, he was 50.
It's only a mistake if you perceive it as such. If you're religious, or have some belief in god (or gods or <insert really vast entity here>), you would consider it a blessing, not a mistake.
It's only a mistake if your intention was to NOT have children, and you made attempts to prevent it, and the attempts failed. If you simply let chance fall where it may, then no, it's not a mistake at all.
My mom has told me that I was not a planned pregnancy and I guess that makes my creation a mistake. Do you think it is EVER appropriate to tell you child that they were not planned? Is it appropriate to tell them when they become and adult. All I know is it hasn't made me feel too good about myself.
My third child was also totally and completely unplanned but I have no intention of ever telling her this. I love her with all my heart regardless.
Anyone else in the same boat?
I don't think an unplanned child is necessarily a mistake. I don't think I would tell a child he/she was unplanned but if they found out I would hope it would not bother them into adulthood. My third child was unplanned but certainly not a mistake.
It's only a mistake if your intention was to NOT have children, and you made attempts to prevent it, and the attempts failed. If you simply let chance fall where it may, then no, it's not a mistake at all.
That would be me!
I was the 4th - my mom was on the pill when she got pregnant with me. The joke was I had it in my hand when she gave birth.
She admits - she cried when she found out. But that certainly didn't change how she felt about me and the love she gave me. I'm probably the closer to her out of all of us kids. I was the one she got to spend the most time with, etc. I certainly never took it personally. I kind of think the whole story is funny.
I was the 4th - my mom was on the pill when she got pregnant with me. The joke was I had it in my hand when she gave birth.
She admits - she cried when she found out. But that certainly didn't change how she felt about me and the love she gave me. I'm probably the closer to her out of all of us kids. I was the one she got to spend the most time with, etc. I certainly never took it personally. I kind of think the whole story is funny.
Don't get me wrong it hasn't scarred me emotionally but I must admit when I was told about it when I was much younger it did affect me. I guess my daughter was just meant to be as we were using protection, it was only the one time and it was at the wrong time of the month for anything to have happened.
Last edited by KylieEve; 08-25-2010 at 07:31 AM..
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I have a friend whose mother was getting an abortion - was actually in the process of getting it - when she got a "vision" from her unborn child asking to be born. And she got off the table and went home and had her baby. And that baby ended up growing up to become the friend of mine. A mistake to get pregnant, absolutely. But not a mistake to be born. When a woman knows she is pregnant and subsequently gives birth, that baby is NOT a mistake.
I don't know if I was unplanned, but both my kids certainly were. I discussed that fact with them when they became of an age to be sexually active. Not in the manner that they were mistakes as in something I regretted, but only in the way that they were not planned and that such an event can severely change one's life in many ways. I used it as an object lesson to think about your actions before and while you are doing them, and to choose the right decisions when something doesn't go the way you planned.
As a result, though I had two "accidents", neither of my children have, and in fact my daughter has a schedule of what year she will have a child. Just because you tell a child they were an accident doesn't mean it will harm them.
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