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Old 03-08-2014, 01:26 PM
 
Location: In my mind (scary)
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So I faced one of THE GREATEST FEARS last night. I'm proud of myself but at the same time, a NERVOUS WRECK! I actually came to the house I was in during the home invasion, and slept in the bed I hid under. I'm not really sure slept would be the correct description. My SO has been with me every step of the way, and has been very supportive. It's very different without the dog here. The thought keeps passing through my mind that if something were to happen again, I'd have no warning this time.

I feel like I'm planning for the next episode. Just waiting for the window to shatter again. I can't get the image of the bright red shoes from my mind, or the glass shattering from my ears. I'm thinking way too much way too soon.

It really does anger me, not being able to sit comfortably in my own home, or rest comfortably in my own bed. I just freaking bought that bed before the invasion, spent over $1000 on it, now I can't even stand to look at it.

At least I'm alive, and I can thank my lucky stars for that. And I'm grateful I made it through the night without freaking out. Now its time to go back to the country, this girl has had enough for today.
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Old 03-08-2014, 02:03 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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My children are 5 & 7, and I'm not about to put the fear that I'm experiencing onto them, which would in turn give them psychological issues in the long run. They are just babies.
While your attitude is admirable, you need to understand that you are not doing as good of a job as you think you are of hiding your anxiety and PTSD from your children, even at their young ages.

Trust me on this - the only way to protect them from your psychological issues in the long run is to be healed of them.

Please see a professional!
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Old 03-08-2014, 02:21 PM
 
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While your attitude is admirable, you need to understand that you are not doing as good of a job as you think you are of hiding your anxiety and PTSD from your children, even at their young ages.

Trust me on this - the only way to protect them from your psychological issues in the long run is to be healed of them.

Please see a professional!
I am in therapy, thank you for the advice.



Also someone had sent me a DM telling me that to track my progress by daily threading is not a good idea, thanks for the advice. I am new to CD and haven't figured put the blogging part out yet. Also, I don't want anyone to think I'm using this forum as therapy sessions, that is not what I'm doing.

I'm getting others advice, and hearing from others that suffer through the same thing I'm going through but with different circumstances. If you feel I'm seeking free therapy, please don't post to my thread, you can go submit your thoughts to the thread "Do you think your sexy?", since my thread of an actual problem that affect so many offends you so much.
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Old 03-08-2014, 04:43 PM
 
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I am in therapy, thank you for the advice.


Awesome! I must have missed where you'd said so before.

Please speak to your therapist about recommending someone who does EMDR, I promise you, it can be one of the best and quickest ways to deal with PTSD
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Old 03-09-2014, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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My children are 5 & 7, and I'm not about to put the fear that I'm experiencing onto them, which would in turn give them psychological issues in the long run. They are just babies.
Unfortunately, based on the thread about your son in the Parenting forum, it seems that you have transferred your anxiety to them.

I think you should look into family therapy ASAP.
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Old 03-09-2014, 09:30 AM
 
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So I faced one of THE GREATEST FEARS last night. I'm proud of myself but at the same time, a NERVOUS WRECK! I actually came to the house I was in during the home invasion, and slept in the bed I hid under...
Well they say if you fall off a horse, get back on right away!

So good for you!
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Old 03-09-2014, 12:27 PM
 
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Well they say if you fall off a horse, get back on right away!

So good for you!
Never thought of it that way, great observation! I will definitely look into that. Thanks
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Old 03-09-2014, 09:55 PM
 
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That post was meant for Wmsn4Life, sorry.
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Old 03-09-2014, 10:18 PM
 
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I have heard good and bad on EMDR, I have read some say it's almost as painful as the PTSD itself.
I haven't heard that there's a downside. Do you have more info about that case/those cases?

There's another technique that some of the EMDR practitioners like, which is called Somatic Experiencing. A friend of mine tried that, and it really helped. She only needed 3 sessions.
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Old 03-09-2014, 10:42 PM
 
Location: Corona the I.E.
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I believe the complaints apply to both EMDR and SE. When I looked into EMDR and read some feedback some said both almost have you relive the PTSD, traumatic to some.
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