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56 years into life, I'd say there isn't a biggest. Graduating high school and college, getting married, having kids, buying a house, leaving the employee world to go out on my own - part of life IMO, not a transition.
There are only two transitions that matter, being born and dying. The rest is a game.
Your first day in school
Your first day in high school
College graduation
First day on a full time job
The first 5 years a marriage
Buying your first house
Paying off your first house
Getting my first pilot license and transitioning from ground pounder to airborne.
Retiring completely after 40 years of work and transitioning from always having some one else to tell you what to do to having complete control over every min of every day.
Of all these significant events the biggest transition was the last RETIREMENT. Everything about your life changes, nothing stays the same.
definitely the biggest transition is having kids, hands down, nothing else compares
regarding retirement, my observation is that it is much more of a transition for men than it is for women, because women typically have more "interruptions" in their work life and career, which men do not, so they are used to the stops and starts. also (again my observation, but several people have mentioned this and i find it to be true) retirement is harder for men because so much of their self-image and self-esteem and value is tied up in their work and career. whereas women find value in many areas in their life and do not derive their primary value from work.
the scariest transition was getting divorced, it felt like having the rug pulled out from under me, and everything i believed about myself and my life and the arc of where my life was going was shattered.
56 years into life, I'd say there isn't a biggest. Graduating high school and college, getting married, having kids, buying a house, leaving the employee world to go out on my own - part of life IMO, not a transition.
There are only two transitions that matter, being born and dying. The rest is a game.
NOTHING can prepare you for how it changes your life. Everything about your life. Your daily tasks, the way you grocery shop, how you use your time, the emotions you feel, the stress and responsibility, the financial difficulties, the way it changes your relationship with your spouse....
I'm 22, so I haven't had many transitions in life, but so far I have
graduated high school
moved into a college campus
graduated college
got first job
bought first "house" [condo]
most of my friends have done all that + gotten engaged. a few are even married with their own child.
I would say the biggest transition I made was from college student to working adult. Even then, I had it pretty easy. I had interned and then had a co op at the same company and was going to work on the same team that I interned on.
I think most of my friends would say having a child changed them, and then getting married.
What was your biggest transition in life?
Having a child because it changes everything in your life including how you now look at the world.
parenthood is unrewarding to you? poor kids. and it seems like you didn't stop at one.
I think if more people were completely honest they would admit that parenthood is not rewarding. I love my two boys but I never found being a parent especially rewarding. If I had a crystal ball I probably would not have had children at all and that's the honest truth.
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