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For a long time now, maybe decades, I don't take pee's in public restrooms with ease. I freeze, and in places like stadiums in public restrooms with lines for urinals, all open with no dividers, I've had instances where I had to leave and reset so I can relieve myself. I can sit in a stall just to pee, and if people are in the restroom it may take me a minute to release. And the door is closed and I might be playing a game on my phone.
It's so stupid. It's psychological and I should be able to control it. Thus far I have been unsuccessful in my attempts to free flow. Sometimes even having a few drinks doesn't help. I am so annoyed with myself.
For a long time now, maybe decades, I don't take pee's in public restrooms with ease. I freeze, and in places like stadiums in public restrooms with lines for urinals, all open with no dividers, I've had instances where I had to leave and reset so I can relieve myself.
I dont like them either bud!!!!
I always sit in a stall or stand in a stall........ I dont like urinals @ all!!!!!! (I cant go with others watching,etc)
I think it is quite common. Just take a deep breath, close your eyes and think about a waterfall. Pretty much everyone seems to get uncomfortable at times.
I used to be much like you. Now, I am older (almost oyur age), I drink a ton of tea. Caffeine is a diuretic. So when I go to the bathroom, I am usually running. Even if it is uncomfortable having other people there, nothing is going to stop me form peeing now days.
Ever have to go pee in a cup for drug testing? Same issue. However then, you do not get to wait until you are running tot he bathroom, so you jsut stand there for half an hour meditating and hoping you can make something happen. Stupid cup.
I have experienced that too. I just use a stall, lift the seat, relax, stand until I can deliver.
No big problem. And also could be related to aging. Perhaps you may have an enlarged prostate. There are a variety of treatments both surgical and pharmaceutical for that. Consult with your primary care doctor.
Or just do as I do, use a stall, relax, you'll "go" when you feel comfortable. Not a problem. You are no different than many men, particularly in the latter half of life.
And hey, it's not like women don't have problems of their own. I'll pick having man problems any day.
It honestly embarrasses me (to myself obviously). I've tried closing my eyes, breathing, mental thoughts of happy places , but still it's such a stupid and frustrating thing to deal with.
For whatever reason I never thought of bringing this up to my PCP because I've always assumed it's just in my head.
....and I never caught in my title it said pre instead of pee (stupid spell check I missed).
Jeez, man, lose the embarrassment. I bet the condition is more common than not at your age. (I'm no spring chicken myself. I speak that of which I know first hand.)
It is totally not a big problem. You feel stress, your muscles tighten. Those same muscles have to relax to release your urine. Then you feel more stress because you can't go, and that just makes the problem more intractable.
You are not alone. You are not unusual. You are a typical man facing a problem many men your age also face. Accept it. Do what I suggested: use a stall, lift the lid, wait until you go.
Also, I have found that sometimes it helps to pull my pants down to my knees, fully exposing my abdomen and let my penis hang over the toilet, then lean forward and place my hands against the wall. This promotes a looser posture and makes it easier for me to relax.
And you thought you wouldn't get a good answer for your minor problem! LOL! It's an easy one to solve!
I'm glad you posted instead of just suffering on. That's why we Psychology enthusiasts hang in this area of C-D. We are here to help those who need it!
People with this problem are better off using a stall.
The ideal work situation is a building with one-person unisex restrooms. I used to work at a place like that. You're always alone that way, no pressure to produce.
With all the political arguments over gender-ambiguity, I don't understand why they don't solve the problem for once and for all--just switch to one-person unisex restrooms everywhere. Same for showers, and get rid of that grab ass play too: not funny.
Also, bathrooms are isolated and a lot of grief comes from some. Again, same solution.
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