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When my husband passes should I outlive him, it will just totally gut me.
Agree on this. My DH and I both say to each other "I'm going first". I think whenever a couple is together for many years the one left behind will be wrecked for quite some time.
Agree on this. My DH and I both say to each other "I'm going first". I think whenever a couple is together for many years the one left behind will be wrecked for quite some time.
We talk about this sometimes. I will not be lost without him, but I will miss how he takes care of me. I will need to step up, but I know I can...not that I want to. I expect I will curse him for leaving all the tools and stuff in his garage for me to dispose of.
I get broken up when anyone dies, and I don't need to know them either. I am 61 and my time is close to ending, and I am quite aware of it. I am a Christian, and I have no qualms about passing away. But, I get so morose when others my age pass on.
Don't be such a early leaver. FIL retired at 65 and is still alive at 99. He's been retired longer than he worked.
Agree on this. My DH and I both say to each other "I'm going first". I think whenever a couple is together for many years the one left behind will be wrecked for quite some time.
I often think about which one of us will be the most miserable or unable to cope when left behind.
I am numb when someone passes, and basically emotionless. funerals and wakes are so depressing. the dreaded dark clothing, sad faces, people crying suffering, i just never got it. All I can feel at funerals are memories of my favorite times spent with the deceased, the type of person the deceased was, and how the person was in real life. I also feel happy they were able to accomplish as much as they have in their lifetime. But this is usually for people of older age.
When they are younger, I feel sad for the parents, and how the gift of life was cut short for their family. I am basically speechless, and numb of feelings.
I would want for me, a celebration of my lifetime,sharing a few laughs, honoring my legacy, my family tree, favorite music , favorite meal, favorite activity. Do not cry for me, but rejoice me. Do it for my children, and my wife.
It depends on how and why they die. I fell apart at age 16 when my mother died at age 54. I was lost without her. I haven't felt that way about a death since then.
At my age, most of my immediate family and close friends I had when I was young and working are gone. My brother keeled over mid-sentence at age 75. What a fantastic way to go! Was I sad? Not really. He was ready.
I know a handful of people who are true burdens to their families. Yet they live on, propped up by their CPAPS and neck braces that keep them from slobbering on themselves. Yay, modern medicine, and thanks for all the fish!
My mother died at the same age when I was in my early 20s. I also fell apart. After that, all other deaths were easier to deal with.
My paternal grandmother died in her early 80s after a stroke. I was in my 30s. While we were very close, it did not hit me the way my mom's untimely death did. I felt sad. But the death was more appropriate.
On December 12th of this year, my father died at 87. I was sad, but he had been ill for several years and I was well prepared for it.
While I agree with the OP that death is part of life, I find it hard to understand not missing someone at at when they pass on.
I want to donate my body to a med school. One of my friends, whose a doctor said oh you wouldn't believe what some of those bodies go through. I said have at it, I'm done with it. My soul is gone, which is what was 'me'. What is left is just the earth suit.
I want to donate my body to a med school. One of my friends, whose a doctor said oh you wouldn't believe what some of those bodies go through. I said have at it, I'm done with it. My soul is gone, which is what was 'me'. What is left is just the earth suit.
I also want to donate my body. That seems to be harder on the family members than the ones wanting it done. You don't get a choice of "how" your body is used and your family probably does not want to know, lol. Check out this book as it is pretty interesting...composting also looks cool https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/32145.Stiff
I read it one time, can't remember where: Death is the greatest gift you'll ever receive on this planet!
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