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I hate when you don't look or sound extremely excited and someone says, " Wow you look so excited to be here" or " Don't sound so enthusiastic". How should i respond when someone says these things to me , knowing they are being sarcastic? Comments like these always bother me because I feel like i am being made fun of. I guess people don't consider that someone may be depressed or going through something. People really suck.
I wouldn't respond. But if they continued because of my lack of response, such as "wow, you really don't want to be here," I would simply say "you already made that point." The purpose here is to show that I am bored of a person making the same point over and over.
I hate when you don't look or sound extremely excited and someone says, " Wow you look so excited to be here" or " Don't sound so enthusiastic". How should i respond when someone says these things to me , knowing they are being sarcastic? Comments like these always bother me because I feel like i am being made fun of. I guess people don't consider that someone may be depressed or going through something. People really suck.
I don't really get what the problem here is. If someone does it, I just answer truthfully, or make fun of their whiny mood, but always in a playful way. Rather than get annoyed, I usually try to elevate others to my mood.
The old "well SOMEONE's in a bad mood" also gets some results.
Generally I wouldn't pay too much attention to such people.
If I appear unenthusiastic or bored and someone makes a comment, I snap out of it and try to be more present and pleasant. Far from being offended, I appreciate the reminder to stay in the moment, recognize those around me and be a part of the world.
Surely there are at least 100 ways to handle someone saying something like that.
1. Smile, and say I guess I'm kind of tired today
2. Smile and say "Oh, you just caught me in RBF mode."
3. Smile and don't say anything
4. Smile, wink, and walk away
5. Look at the person very seriously, and tell him/her you're there to guard the president
Why not validate their perception ? It's probably true .
I know on some occasions I woke up on the wrong side of the bed . And folks would comment. I had to acknowledge their sarcastic remark and then realign my attitude.
I happen to admire some forms of sarcasm , sometimes it's that sideways truth that nudges a person.
PERHAPS someone was being mildly sarcastic in their comment to you, but I'm willing to bet $20 they had no intention of hurting you, and from what you said, they were not mocking you either.
For instance...if you're sitting through a boring lecture, and someone comments on your lack of enthusiasm, they might very will be commiserating with you. Not making fun of you.
I hate when you don't look or sound extremely excited and someone says, " Wow you look so excited to be here" or " Don't sound so enthusiastic". How should i respond when someone says these things to me , knowing they are being sarcastic? Comments like these always bother me because I feel like i am being made fun of. I guess people don't consider that someone may be depressed or going through something. People really suck.
Here's something I learned long ago about myself and people. Everyone is a little uneasy in social situations. I'm a little more so than most people, but just a little. I often hold back a bit as a result, and that makes me hard to read, which can add to the unease others feel. Knowing that, I see comments like you describe as their slightly awkward effort to engage me. To learn something about me if we're new acquaintances or to read my state if they know me.
People certainly can and do suck, but I don't believe this is an instance of suckiness.
Here's something I learned long ago about myself and people. Everyone is a little uneasy in social situations. I'm a little more so than most people, but just a little. I often hold back a bit as a result, and that makes me hard to read, which can add to the unease others feel. Knowing that, I see comments like you describe as their slightly awkward effort to engage me. To learn something about me if we're new acquaintances or to read my state if they know me.
People certainly can and do suck, but I don't believe this is an instance of suckiness.
Agreed. I see the example in the OP as less sarcastic mocking and more awkward engagement. No one particularly loves to be told to cheer up, but it's an opportunity for the OP (who's mentioned that he doesn't have many friends) to buck up and be friendly back.
If I appear unenthusiastic or bored and someone makes a comment, I snap out of it and try to be more present and pleasant. Far from being offended, I appreciate the reminder to stay in the moment, recognize those around me and be a part of the world.
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Why not validate their perception ? It's probably true .
I know on some occasions I woke up on the wrong side of the bed . And folks would comment. I had to acknowledge their sarcastic remark and then realign my attitude.
I happen to admire some forms of sarcasm , sometimes it's that sideways truth that nudges a person.
I was thinking exactly along the lines of these two posts.
Sometimes people do suck, and that sucky person could be you, or me, if we're checked out of our environment to the point that other people are noticing.
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