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Old 11-05-2018, 12:01 PM
 
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I would love to find someone who felt as I do who and wanted to date exclusively yet live separately. Someone to share life with...just not a bathroom or kitchen. If I find that then great. If not that's cool too. I'm pretty happy doing my thing. There is a thread in the Retirement section of CD that discusses something really close to this.
//www.city-data.com/forum/retir...out-women.html
This reminds me of an episode on Louie:

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Louie and Pamela see a French film and go to an Italian restaurant where Louie suggests they should move in together, but Pamela wants it to remain an open relationship though she does reluctantly say that she loves him.
Season 5, Episode 2, "A La Carte".

Totally random I know.
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Old 11-05-2018, 12:17 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I'm in my mid-fifties, in really good shape (most people think I'm in my forties) and single. First off I love women Always have and always will. I am on relatively good terms with my ex's. I have a daughter I adore. I work in healthcare so I work and interact primarily with females in the work setting.
But...I don't really have any desire to ever get married again or even live with someone. I'm still interested in sex but not if I have to put up with nonsense. I think at this point in my life I can see red flags a mile away and things I would have disregarded when I was younger now are intolerable. I'm sure many fifty-something-year-old women feel the exact same way.

I would love to find someone who felt as I do who and wanted to date exclusively yet live separately. Someone to share life with...just not a bathroom or kitchen. If I find that then great. If not that's cool too. I'm pretty happy doing my thing. There is a thread in the Retirement section of CD that discusses something really close to this.
//www.city-data.com/forum/retir...out-women.html
It's not too unusual for a couple to decide to maintain their separate homes, especially if they're older, and each have their own home that they're invested home-improvement time and energy into, and have come to love it. Another option is to get a duplex, so each can have their own separate space, yet still be under the same roof, close by.
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Old 11-05-2018, 12:27 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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It's not too unusual for a couple to decide to maintain their separate homes, especially if they're older, and each have their own home that they're invested home-improvement time and energy into, and have come to love it. Another option is to get a duplex, so each can have their own separate space, yet still be under the same roof, close by.
That's weird. I can see an elderly couple wanting separate bedrooms if they've reached end of sexual activity. Easier to sleep alone if you aren't getting it on.

I don't get the separate houses thing. Why be married at all? You could just meet at a restaurant and get separate tabs.
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Old 11-05-2018, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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That's weird. I can see an elderly couple wanting separate bedrooms if they've reached end of sexual activity. Easier to sleep alone if you aren't getting it on.

I don't get the separate houses thing. Why be married at all? You could just meet at a restaurant and get separate tabs.
Because one (or both parties) may want to be married, but still want to maintain their own place of residence and have alone time.
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Old 11-05-2018, 12:55 PM
 
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Because one (or both parties) may want to be married, but still want to maintain their own place of residence and have alone time.
Exactly! Not as much "we" time.
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Old 11-05-2018, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Prepperland
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Wait, let me get this straight; you WANT a woman desperately dependent on you, using your credit cards, budgeting your earnings, having a kid or two [six to ten], who end up desperately dependent on you? You don't want anyone contributing to the household budget? [and tax revenues]

Why would you want that?
Before socialism and the illusion of security by taxing “other people’s children,” the only security for one’s old age was one's family or private charity. As a result of that policy, families were large. Ironically, it was not uncommon for one working adult - the male - to support a “stay at home spouse” and all the children. (Of course, when you're not paying an aggregate tax rate of 44% nor paying exorbitant usury and not suffering inflation, it's easier to pull that off.)

But once people were misled to assume that government would take care of them (by taxing other people's children), women could forego motherhood, and become a career woman. Of course, depopulation has a negative effect as shown by the "Graying of Europe" - where the booming pensioner population is supported by a dwindling tax base.

In another sense, those who generate plenty of offspring will inherit the lands of those who go extinct, or are marginalized. That's reason enough to abolish genocidal socialism.
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Old 11-05-2018, 04:20 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I don't understand "tax other peoples' children." Actually they tax singles to support deductions for married people with children.
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Old 11-05-2018, 06:35 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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Its not that we lose interest in women, its just that sex isn't the primary driver anymore. Therefore, we're not willing to deal with all the games. We're smarter and wiser and not ruled by testosterone.
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Old 11-05-2018, 09:14 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Its not that we lose interest in women, its just that sex isn't the primary driver anymore. Therefore, we're not willing to deal with all the games. We're smarter and wiser and not ruled by testosterone.
Games? You sound rather frustrated.
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Old 11-06-2018, 03:29 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville
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We're actually not sleeping together right now. She went to bed about 5 hours ago, gets up at 6:00 AM to get ready for work, and I've been on my exercise bike for 2 hours of that time and catching up on the internet ever since. I haven't slept a minute!
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