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I'm at the 7 month itch! I have been married for 7 months now and I'm strating to question if it is right, if he is the right person. We have been together for 2 years and I know I love him but I am starting to question if I want him to be the father of my children and my husband for the rest of my life. What do I do? Is this just a phase? He is a wonderful man and I am so lucky to be with him. I just feel like something is missing.
Does it exist? And if so, why? I am curious to know what you think!
I don't know about the seven year itch, but I did have the itch a few months ago. I have no idea what started it. I just kept scratching and scratching. Nothing would work. Not even Benadryl. The tops of my feet became raw. It was agonizing. Finally it went away. Not sure what that was all about.
I saw a show on the Discovery channel a couple of years back and it talked about how prehistoric women would stay with a mate until their offspring was old enough to fend for themselves. Guess how long it was. Yup, seven years.
They speculated that a woman would stay with a man, be commited to him for seven years and then move on to another man to start the same pattern again. This way, the propogation of the species and genetic variance was guaranteed.
I found it interesting that it was the woman and not the man who left and this thread reminded me of that. Too bad I couldn't find any reference online to post a link to.
I'm not sure why... But I have been comparing him to my exboyfriend (from 4 years ago). My husband is a much better person than my ex but my ex was more helpful, showed he cared and was always there for me and for some reason I don't have that with my husband. I just feel like I need more. I have tried in a nice way to tell him I need more help around the house and that I need to know I can rely on him but he just gets upset when I talk to him about this stuff.
At 7 years you know what you've got. The big discovery is over. You most likely have children and adult activities have gone by the wayside. If you both work full time and take care of the kids, you don't have much leftover energy to nurture your own relationship. You've been together long enough to take each other for granted. You are probably still young enough to have some single friends and it looks like they have a lot more fun than you do!
Hi yellowsnow,
That is why I did not do that. Perhaps its also why we are still happily married after 6 years with 2 kids. Stupid Americans....
. I have tried in a nice way to tell him I need more help around the house and that I need to know I can rely on him but he just gets upset when I talk to him about this stuff.[/quote]
Ah, the typical traditional (not all men are like that, obviously) mothers and fathers not teaching their sons to do some housework situation.Selfish and arrogant, etc. Causes tons of problems esp when the kids come along and the priority is sometimes with the latter.The house doesn't clean itself.
That is why I did not do that. Perhaps its also why we are still happily married after 6 years with 2 kids. Stupid Americans....
I don't think it's an American problem per se. to your wife, you are a lucky man.
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Well said...if everyone thought that way I am sure there would be less divorce...maybe
to your wife, you are a lucky man.
