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At 7 years you know what you've got. The big discovery is over. You most likely have children and adult activities have gone by the wayside. If you both work full time and take care of the kids, you don't have much leftover energy to nurture your own relationship. You've been together long enough to take each other for granted. You are probably still young enough to have some single friends and it looks like they have a lot more fun than you do!
At 7 years you know what you've got. The big discovery is over. You most likely have children and adult activities have gone by the wayside. If you both work full time and take care of the kids, you don't have much leftover energy to nurture your own relationship. You've been together long enough to take each other for granted. You are probably still young enough to have some single friends and it looks like they have a lot more fun than you do!
I have heard of the 7 year itch, but I don't know anyone who has actually admitted to having it. I would think at 7 years the realization of "it is cheaper to keeper" has set in big time. I would think when u know that u would work harder on the marriage. Now I have heard at 10 years if it is not working u r will to pay any price for your freedom U sound like u know a lot about this 7 year thing...I hope u got over it
Think it's more like the seven month itch these days. The infatuation & attraction wears off and they don't give time to see if they really care. They realize it's not like playing house. Many shouldn't have even married in the first place but everbody just "has to do it." Marriage meant more in bygone eras, IMO. Now it's more like buying a car or something.
I was raised a Seventh Day Adventist and attended their schools...they are against divorce.
The friends I went to school with, when they do divorce, I am seeing it more after like 20 years...I think they stick it out because they were raised to NOT believe in divorce but they just can't take it.
I am sure some will think this is uber idealistic or silly, but I truly believe that if there's actually an itch after a certain period of time to leave the relationship or explore, then either that person isn't your best match and you've settled or you just aren't the monogamous type and need to figure out what kind of situation is best for you.
I have heard of the 7 year itch, but I don't know anyone who has actually admitted to having it. I would think at 7 years the realization of "it is cheaper to keeper" has set in big time. I would think when u know that u would work harder on the marriage. Now I have heard at 10 years if it is not working u r will to pay any price for your freedom U sound like u know a lot about this 7 year thing...I hope u got over it
Just because you've had the itch doesn't mean you have to scratch it!
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has set in big time. I would think when u know that u would work harder on the marriage. Now I have heard at 10 years if it is not working u r will to pay any price for your freedom
U sound like u know a lot about this 7 year thing...I hope u got over it
