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Please give me your honest answers here...do you believe that meeting someone online versus the traditional way (thru work,friends,etc) is taken as a sign of desperation and used as last resort... Thanks
Nah... I mean, I've been on online dating services and met some great guys that way. But my last significant relationship (we were planning to marry), although technically "online", came from YouTube! I definitely wasn't looking for love on the Tube! But he found me from a vlog I did, and we started talking, and then we fell in like, then we met and fell in love, and 2 years later it ended. We're still close, though. Well, as close as two people on different hemispheres, who have broken up, can be.
I still think that meeting in person, the old fashioned way, is the best way to go, but it's hard for some of us to get out there like we could when we were in college, and social activities were all over the place. Now we have jobs, and kids and exes and meetings and... so I gave the online thing a try.
Mmm ... well, yes and no. Dating sites are the new bars. But instead of wandering around in a drunken stupor until the cute guy takes you home and never calls again, you meet the cute guy on Match.com, he takes you home and never calls again. Same M.O., same outcome, more efficient medium.
I read somewhere that most people who joined Match.com did so to hook up for sex--something like 57%? Another 30% wasn't interested in a LT relationship. This leaves scant few people on dating sites who are actually there to "match." I know the kinds of messages I received on the site. They far outnumbered the guys who seemed like decent guys. And even some of the ones who seemed okay turned out dodgy when I met them. "Do you want to go to your place now?" Again: EW.
Dating sites are an excellent way for men and women to vet potential f-buddies. I wouldn't take anyone I met on one seriously, though. One exception: If he lived out of town. If a man drives all the way just to take me out to dinner and nothing more, I suspect that he's pretty serious about getting to know me. I prefer to go out with guys I meet either IRL. There are a couple I'd date who I met through my a writers' forum, which is similar to meeting someone through work.
I met my husband because we were part of the same message board community. We've been blissfully happy for over 8 years now. Neither of us was desperate. Both of us are elated.
Please give me your honest answers here...do you believe that meeting someone online versus the traditional way (thru work,friends,etc) is taken as a sign of desperation and used as last resort... Thanks
Absolutely not! I read in the Washington Post that 20% of couples now meet online! My own son met his live in gf that way and they are perfect for each other!
Please give me your honest answers here...do you believe that meeting someone online versus the traditional way (thru work,friends,etc) is taken as a sign of desperation and used as last resort... Thanks
No it doesn't and quite frankly I'm sick to death of people saying this. Welcome to the 21st century - and please remove your head from under that rock (directed at the people who are so judgmental and spout off like they have a clue)
Absolutely not desperate at all. It could be that there is no one available in your area or social group. Not everyone lives in a big city with endless date possibilities. I have found that in a smaller town it's common to get married as soon as possible, like at 18-20. For us few that wanted to amount to something and put relationships on the back burner, that leaves few chances to meet. And if you can't travel or move to the big city, you're either stuck single or you can try online dating. It might sound desperate, but it could be likened to the 21st century bar scene. I even tried it out very briefly, and as already mentioned, the web is full of flakes. Ironically a week or two after I created my profile, I met my future wife in the real world as she was in town visiting some family. So you never know. And sometimes when you stop looking for love, love ends up finding you.
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No. People are socializing more and more online now and where ever people socialize, they're bound to develope all kinds of relationships, even romantic.
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But he found me from a vlog I did, and we started talking, and then we fell in like, then we met and fell in love, and 2 years later it ended. We're still close, though. Well, as close as two people on different hemispheres, who have broken up, can be. 
(directed at the people who are so judgmental and spout off like they have a clue)
