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I'm leaning towards no because of my current situation and my health. Because of my condition, pregnancies will always be a high risk for me. If I ever decided to have kids I probably would adopt.
Having children is a gift from God! And yes you are selfish for not wanting any. After all they will be the next generation, they will pass along our traditions. Think about that.
Having biological children isn't a selfless act either. If you all are so selfless then we would have a lot more people adopting. Soooo did you adopt or do you plan on adopting?
Having children is a gift from God! And yes you are selfish for not wanting any. After all they will be the next generation, they will pass along our traditions. Think about that.
I think it is much more selfish for all of the people out there who do have kids simply because they want to carry on their genes but who don't have the parenting skills or the financial circumstances that would allow their kids to have a good life.
I love kids. I think that I have good genes, good values, and am financially stable enough to raise kids in a very positive environment. I think that it would be cool to see what a "mini me" would look like/accomplish in life. However, I also know that I can make a bigger positive impact in the world if I don't have kids. I also know that the type of lifestyle that would make ME happy (sorry for being selfish) would not be easy on kids (traveling around the world, starting up a business and needing to put in long hours for that business, etc.). I don't think I'm being selfish because I am thinking about the child's overall well-being and I would rather leave the baby-making to someone who REALLY wants to have kids. And while others are passing on traditions to their kids, I can be helping to make the world a better place for their kids :-).
I think it is much more selfish for all of the people out there who do have kids simply because they want to carry on their genes but who don't have the parenting skills or the financial circumstances that would allow their kids to have a good life.
Does anyone really have any parenting skills before they have kids? I think parents learn as they go along. Mine did, and I couldn't ask for a better job.
Does anyone really have any parenting skills before they have kids? I think parents learn as they go along. Mine did, and I couldn't ask for a better job.
I'm not referring to the average person/couple. I think most people can make good parents. Some can't and don't try to be good parents. Those are the ones who are selfish and the ones I am referring to. Think of all the kids brought up in extreme poverty, with abusive parents, parents who are addicted to drugs, etc. Some of these parents had children because they simply wanted a baby, some because they wanted welfare, some by accident. My point is that people like that are the ones who are truly selfish because they shouldn't bring someone into the world who they couldn't take care of.
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I have a whole buffet table of reasons to NOT want kids. However, I will summarize (sorry for the vagueness, but that's the price for summaries). A word of warning: If you don't like reading pessimism, then skip my post, as I tend to have a fairly negative view of the human race as a whole. There are good people in the world, but I find them to truly be in the minority.
*Philisophical reasons - Simply put, I see no reason to bring kids into this world. Because no human being lives forever, nor will the human race last forever, I see no point in bringing them into the world.
*Moral/Ethical Reasons - Even the best lives are full of suffering. Even worse, it's impossible to guarantee any one person will have a good life. Therefore, despite the joys life brings, I question whether we should expose human beings to this unfair world. To me, the world has to be a literal Heaven-on-Earth before I even consider bringing a child into it.
-The future world poses VERY high risks - Even without war and environmental concerns, our technology in general will present so many challenges to our future that it will increase the probability of us destroying ourselves (genetic, microtech, biomicro, artificial intelligence, etc). Frankly, I don't have faith in humanity's ability to "do the right thing" over the long run.
*Personal Reasons - I love my free time, don't want to burden myself with all the responsibilities and worries that go with parenthood. Plus, I don't have the patience to deal with the illogical and narrow mentality most children have. I'd much rather spend my time reading, surfing cyberspace, and learning more and more about the world.
Given all these reasons, I chose the path "My branch of the Human DNA tree plans to get out while the going's still good" (not through suicide, but by refusing to reproduce). Sorry for the pessimism about humanity, but were I any more rosy, I'd be lying to you all.
Thanks for everyone's input thus far! It sounds like more people are uninterested in having kids than I thought! When responding, please remember to share your age, sex, if you are married or not, and whether or not you want to get married. I'm interested to see if there is a correlation between any of these items.
Regarding your statement about the world being overpopulated. If one travels the US or just about any country on a road trip anyone quickly realizes the falacy of this thought. There is so much space on this planet right now
Hmm, there may be plenty of land but what about food? The more land we use for habitat, the less we have to plant fruit/veggies. How much of the land is actually liveable and fertile enough to grow things on?
You certainly have your right to think it's a "lame excuse" but I think the poster has a valid one, too, IMO.
Thanks for everyone's input thus far! It sounds like more people are uninterested in having kids than I thought! When responding, please remember to share your age, sex, if you are married or not, and whether or not you want to get married. I'm interested to see if there is a correlation between any of these items.
I'm female, 39 years old and have been living ( very happily) with my partner for almost 19 years. I am an atheist and a post-graduate if that helps with the statistics ! He does not want kids either and part from being male has the same "statistics" as mine too.
Having children is a gift from God! And yes you are selfish for not wanting any. After all they will be the next generation, they will pass along our traditions. Think about that.
Wow, I think thats pretty harsh and untrue. I do want kids but it's very much a personal choice. So many people in the world have kids but aren't willing to take care of them and give them the time and attention they need. I think it's so much worse for someone to have a child and selfishly not take responsibility for them.
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He does not want kids either and part from being male has the same "statistics" as mine too.
Pretty Judgemental
