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my question is, have you ever caught yourself one upping by accident?
i did that today by accident.
just because I knew a story of my own that related and wanted to continue the conversation.
Yes! It is all too easy to let slip things when in general conversations. You are not intending it to be one up, but relating something about yourself can appear that way. If you have had a varied background it can even appear like you are making stuff up.
I have known the one uppers and the pathological liars and I do not wish to be put into that camp. I find it is better to just let the other person talk and me keep to inconsequential things.
Oh my goodness, I may have just one-upped Orincarnia! Gods.. it is insidious.
I agree with with the poster who said something about her being insecure. Honestly, I'm always speechless when she always is better/has better. I try to be nice to her because the GF of my SO's friend, but every time it's all about her and what she has! She did lose about 60 lbs (I hadn't seen her for about 2 years since we lived in a different city) which is great for her but at the same time she doesn't need to rub it in my face that she is skinnier than I am now.
Because they have to pretend to be better than everybody else so they don`t have to look at themselves and see the truth about how messed up they really are. They are annoying and I try to avoid them as much as I can.
My dear brother is like this.
Been on a great vacation? He's been on a better one.
Know all about wine? Wrong? He knows more about it.
Met a celebrity? He's met a bigger celebrity.
Drive a nice car? He drives a nicer car.
Know a lot about music? He knows more than you do.
You get the picture . . .
How do I deal with it? I keep my mouth shut and let him feel important. I love him to pieces, and it's not worth jeopardizing our relationship just to put him in his place. People who are like that are often seen as fools by the very people they think they are impressing. Just let them be.
My brother has a lot of other, wonderful qualities. He really is a great guy. Just happens to be a braggart, too.
Wow PJ8, sounds just like the girl I'm talking about. I always try to change the subject and avoid her if at all possible, sometimes it's hard to keep up with making excuses for every time she and her boyfriend come over to our place...(I always end up going out with my friends, JUST so I don't have to be around her) sucks she can make me leave my own house, ugh!
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