Date someone your own age, guys! (dating, girlfriend, how to, married)
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Well, Match once again "auto-initiated" my profile, and I had to go in and disable the sucker. Just out of curiosity, I checked to see who viewed my profile, and ... gee, it's a bunch of MUCH OLDER GUYS.
Look, I am not young; I am in my early 40s. I don't want to go out with someone who's 59, 60, 65+ for the same reason that I would never go out with a guy who's 20. Or even 30. The age difference is just too great. More than 20 years ... that's a generation gap.
I used to think that by the time guys reached their 40s, they'd be more realistic. But it never ends. I didn't want to date a 40-year-old guy when I was 20, and I don't want to date a 60-year-old when I'm 40. Insult to injury, I inherited the "youth" gene from my mom, so I easily pass for 30. Some of these guys would look like my grandfather. Four years younger, four years older. That's what I would prefer, and that's yet another reason I'm not on Match anymore.
What is there to understand about this?
Why do men do this? Why can't they be happy with someone their own age?
Same here!!! And I clearly specified my age-range. It was very annoying to have all these older men trying to get women 20-30 years younger than them. Sorry, but... no. And, yes, I said 30 years! What in the world would I have in common with someone older than my parents??
The guys my age that I did go out with... one was married, the other still not over his ex-girlfriend and he spent the entire date ranting about her.
I love Match.com.
I also keep having to hide my profile. Plus, since my membership is nearly up, suddenly I'm getting suspicious wink alerts (wait, don't go! Hot guys are wanting you!). Turned that sucker off really quick!
Same here!!! And I clearly specified my age-range. It was very annoying to have all these older men trying to get women 20-30 years younger than them. Sorry, but... no. And, yes, I said 30 years! What in the world would I have in common with someone older than my parents??
The guys my age that I did go out with... one was married, the other still not over his ex-girlfriend and he spent the entire date ranting about her.
I love Match.com.
I also keep having to hide my profile. Plus, since my membership is nearly up, suddenly I'm getting suspicious wink alerts (wait, don't go! Hot guys are wanting you!). Turned that sucker off really quick!
Say ... I think I went out with that guy, too! And his six cloned brothers!
Look, I get a lot of "winkies" and messages from guys in their mid-20s, and that creeps me out, too. Just as much, if not more. I feel sisterly or maternal toward this age group, but I do not have the hots for someone 20 years my junior. Yikes! My last S.O. was 11 years younger, and that was problematic enough.
And ITA, it's really weird when the guy's closer to your parents' age than yours.
That 60+ year old men are still living in this world of delusion is stunning. If I'm 60 years old and still not married (heaven forbid), I will want to date a man who's 60 years old.
That 60+ year old men are still living in this world of delusion is stunning. If I'm 60 years old and still not married (heaven forbid), I will want to date a man who's 60 years old.
Well, some women (me included) do like older men, so you can't blame them for trying! However, since you have specified age limits, they really shouldn't be bothering you.
I have no problem dating younger men...within reason. I've only dated one guy who was older than me... but I do have my limits! Yeah, 20 years is a lot... in either direction. With the younger guys, it depends on his maturity level. But with a guy 30 years older... um... I don't know how to be politically correct about this, but... no. Just... no.
Can you imagine me introducing him to my parents, and my parents calling him "Mr. So and so"?!
So is this supposed to mean that you'd be comfortable with a "mature" guy 20 years younger than you then?
No, you'll have to forgive me - I'm on NyQuil and some prescription cold meds and not at my most coherent. That's what I was trying to say when I said "I have my limits".
No. 20 years is too big an age gap, younger OR older. I won't date a guy 20 years younger. But the younger guys I have dated in the past - which were LESS THAN 20 years younger - it was because of their maturity level. Around 10 years younger, average, has been fine... in my experiences, so far. Even late 20s. I just turned 40. Dating a 20 year old would not be something I'm into.
If I'm still not making sense, then I'll just crawl under the covers and try to sleep. I suck while posting when sick and stressed-out.
I have no problem dating younger men...within reason. I've only dated one guy who was older than me... but I do have my limits! Yeah, 20 years is a lot... in either direction. With the younger guys, it depends on his maturity level. But with a guy 30 years older... um... I don't know how to be politically correct about this, but... no. Just... no.
Can you imagine me introducing him to my parents, and my parents calling him "Mr. So and so"?!
A guy 30 years older than me would be retired. I'm just a big believer in being physically able to do the same things that your spouse is able to do. And I'm not just talking about sex (even though that is an issue, too), I'm talking about overall physical stamina. I can't apologize for not wanting to take care of someone who may or may not be experiencing age-related illness in a few years. I know that it will happen to me, but I want my S.O./spouse to be on the same page, going through the same things.
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And, yes, I said 30 years! What in the world would I have in common with someone older than my parents??
However, since you have specified age limits, they really shouldn't be bothering you.
We should post drunk - that'd be fun!
